Me and my ex gf made up as friends. Is she still playing games?

[dwight 12345]

My ex gf broke up with me 2 months ago due to her losing feelings. We were very happy before but i was really stressed out with my personal life but i never told her and i saw it was effecting our relationship. I didn't take her seriously that she will leave me until i lost her.

When we broke up she said that this happens to her a lot in relationships and it would be best if we were to just remain friends with benefits. It sounds like she is just keeping me around until she replaces me but shes not, this girl is legit. I didn't realize that until a couple weeks ago.

She said she was afraid to lose me and i'm the best boyfriend/best friend she never had.

 

After we broke up we were still on good terms until i said "don't talk to me unless you want to makeup." So she didnt talk to me at all, even after i apologized a week later.

 

A few weeks ago i found out that she is dating this guy who is in college that she met through her sister. I felt like i had no chance getting her back because he is a couple years older than her and her sister introduced him to her.

 

I tried talking to her as a friend at school, i even apologized for what i said over winter break and that she should look past all the bad things in the past and remember how close we used to be. She just blew me off and told my friend to tell me that she doesn't want to be friends with me because of the stuff i said to her over break.

 

I let things cool down for a couple weeks. I texted her that night and told her "I miss how close we used to be." She replied with "It's okay, i just needed space. We can still be friends." I heard that things weren't going well between this other guy. I also noticed at the same time it looked like she started to miss me. I thought she was just using me as a backup. So on valentines day i got her this beanie she really wanted back when we were going out. I told her "Happy Valentines day, i got this for you a while ago and i should have gave it to you a while back. I hope this will make things better between us." She looked very happy and i went up for a high five but she said she wanted a hug. So i gave her a hug and it was the longest firmest hug between us. She was carrying around the beanie the whole day at school.

We are slowly rebuilding our friendship but she still seems a little hesitant talking to me. I think in time things will get better.

 

The next day she looked really sexy. We were walking to class together and talking a bit with some friends. Until she purposely says to one of my friends that she is seeing someone and asked him if he wants to double date with them. I was right next to her, it's like she wants to rub it in my face. I'm not letting it get to me though. I think the stuff with the other guy is dying off, i'm not sure though.

 

A couple days ago, i saw a picture she posted on Instagram wearing the beanie i gave her. I'm sure she knows that i saw it. I'm still not sure if she misses me and is trying to tell me subtly or if she just likes the beanie. I'm trying not to over think things.

 

Today i texted her saying "Hey" and she didn't reply. What the hell!

I feel like either she is playing games with me or she is interested in me at times but i just sit back and do nothing and she loses interest.

 

 

What do you guys think? A lot of people on here say "just move on." Before i was trying to at least be friends with her and i asked for advice from people online and they just told me to move on and don't talk to her. I did the complete opposite and it helped. You can see for yourself what i did in my story above. If i stop talking to her all the emotional bond will disappear over time.

[I don't mind]

Dude... you need to stop talking to her and going to her, if she wants you she can come to you. You're her tool right now, you're on a low level. Be in charge, stop talking to her, begin moving on unless she wants to talk to you. She doesn't even sound like she's worth your time, but it's your decision. Just be less...easy for her.

[Simon Phoenix]

You obviously aren't ready to be friends right now. You are overanalyzing everything and trying to get back with her and she can smell it from a mile away. Back off.

[dwight 12345]

How can I be in charge without having to stop talking to her? I don't want her to forget about me.

Hmm how would I be less easy for her? I already tried to pull away for a couple weeks and not talk to her at all. She ended up replacing me due to her believing that I didn't care anymore.

[H3Drvr]

Are you still in the FWB thing or no more? I guess if you don't mind being the backup guy while she goes around dating/screwing other dudes then its all you.

 

But in any case, a woman who wants to be with you will make it clear as day that she wants to be with you. That beanie you gave her...sounds more a like a "trophy" that says "look who's balls I have in my hand!" And your feeling proud that she got you by the cojones?

 

Stop the bleeding, man up and take your cojones back.

[TaraMaiden]

Hi everyone....

 

...Is it my go to post now....?

 

dwight 12345 - I keep cropping up in threads like this, like an old penny....

 

It is absolutely impossible to be any kind of friend with anyone who still has our heart in their hands.

I hate to say it, but you will never get over her, move on, and build a life of your own, until you go No Contact, totally and unequivocally, right across the board.

And that means avoiding being with her as much as is physically possible, and limiting any discussion you have with her, solely to school matters.

 

Please read the No Contact Guide in my signature (updated, 2013)

 

It is the only way you'll get through this.

 

 

 

It is the only way you'll get through this.

 

Yup.

Doubled for emphasis.

[dwight 12345]

I wish somebody can put themselves in my shoes.

It's always easier said than done..

[TaraMaiden]

Of course it is.

And here's another thing:

 

Actions speak louder than words.

 

Take a look at her actions.

 

Now evaluate what yours should be.