tealwindex Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 (edited) OK, I had my third date with a guy on Valentine's Day, we had a great time...and we also had sex (for the first time...and my first time ever) and that was great, and yep...everything was great, as far as I can tell. Then, we met up again the next day, had another great time, and had more sex, and it was even better that time. So, I guess I've had 4 dates with a guy that I really like. We texted each other after both of these dates saying we had a great time, but now I'm wondering what to do next. Except for the first date, I have initiated all of our dates, so should I not text him? He's already told me he's not a huge texter, and even forgets to text his friends and things at times...which makes me think I should ask for another date, but I don't want to come across as needy or anything like that...especially since he knows it was my first time. So, should I just wait for him? Or wait for a certain amount of time, and then text him? Any advice about anything would be very appreciated and helpful, because I could definitely use it. Thanks! Edited February 18, 2013 by tealwindex
TaraJ201 Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Congrats! You should definitely wait for him now to get in touch, and keep in touch, especially as you say it has been you that initiated all but one of the dates. Otherwise you're right it will seem very needy. It will be a good test of whether he was just after sex, which sadly could be likely soon as you gave in so soon or if he is really interested. Hold off texting as long as seems reasonable to you (a few days perhaps?) and then he if still doesn't get in touch... call him out and it and ask why, no point wasting time with someone you've only just met if they are not as interested in you, as you are them - life's too short! : )
TigerCub Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 I'm not a big texter either - but if I want to get in touch with someone, I find a way... Don't text him yet, give it a few days. If he wants to hang out with you, he'd call you and ask you out.
Author tealwindex Posted February 18, 2013 Author Posted February 18, 2013 Makes sense. I think I'll wait until Tuesday night and text him then if I don't hear anything. We had talked about going out with some friends for my birthday, so I can ask if he's still up for that.
neveragain34 Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 He should be initiating the dates and texting you. I'm concerned that he slept with you on date 3 knowing you were a virgin?? Maybe I'm wrong, but wouldn't a truly nice guy/gentlemen have waited longer to make sure you were ready?
Author tealwindex Posted February 18, 2013 Author Posted February 18, 2013 Well, it was a mutual decision. It's not like he forced anything. I have done things with guys, just never gone all the way before that. I think a big part of me "organizing" dates, is that I hate the part after the date where I'm in this state of weird limbo, wondering all the things that I have to wonder, so I want to get something planned so I can focus on that instead, and know that he still wants to see me again. I think waiting until Tuesday should work, because it still gives him a chance, and if he hasn't said anything to me by then, and I say things to him to just casually mention planning something, it still gives him a chance to pick the day/event, or to say no. Since he's mentioned that he's bad at texting, I don't want to text him things like "how's your day going?" because it seems pointless, and I can't constantly text thank yous for the dates, so the only things I can really think are to text things asking to hang out again, but if I wait until tomorrow, that should be good enough, I think. 1
sillyanswer Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 I'm sorry to read that people are telling you to play games. If you want to get in touch with him then do so! and if he isn't initiating contact enough (or at all!) then tell him you don't like that and that you'll be happier if you hear from him sooner next time.
outsidethebox Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 She has to wait a day or two to know whether he is or is not initiating contact (i.e., has any interest). That is not playing games.
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