kaylan Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Why do many people think, and experience, right or wrongly, that good looking people have no personality? Or push the idea that they are dumb and lack substance? Ive thought about this during most of my dating life. And I was wondering if this myth is even half true. What have your dating experiences been? And if your experiences prove the claim, why do you think that is. Part of me thinks that because humans tend to kiss the buts of very attractive people, and that because some attractive people (especially very hot women) have many things in life handed to them, that these people dont really develop much personality or book smarts. And all due to not having a need for it because fake people...us average folks, are constantly butt kissing. And when you look at stats that show how most CEO and presidents have been tall good looking men...it shows what roll looks plays into how we as people operate collectively. What say you? Im just pondering here. I could be very wrong.
mortensorchid Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Attractiveness gives you an obvious hook over anyone who is "average" to far below said average. But, I have met some really obnoxious "cute guys". And I have also met some equally obnoxious ugly people, and ugly people with wonderful personalities. It's all relative.
veggirl Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 People who are insecure or unattractive will shout about pretty people being stupid or vapid or whatever. Its really just to make themselves feel better, I mean you see it here on LS all the time, people act like your choice is attractive but dumb as rocks or less attractive but intelligent/personable. Whatever. TBH most peoples personalities are pretty damn interchangeable in that they fit in one of a FEW different categories you know? Very few people are truly screwed in the personality dept.
MrCastle Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 If you're highly attractive, it's your game to lose. You will start off having positive results just by having a plain personality. Your typical, average personality. It takes a massive negative personality to hurt your chances, and it surprises me how many people fall into that trap. There are a lot of good looking guys that have no idea how to treat a woman, they're just total douches, and then there are girls who are stone cold foxes but are just totally heartless, immature, selfish, etc. It's amazing how they think they can still coast with a personality that bad. I think personality trumps all though, I really do. You just have to find someone who finds your personality a perfect match. Like I've said many times, most women are not leaving their house every morning saying "I gotta find me a 5'7, 145 lb man". But here I am. Now, there is more to physical attractiveness than just weight and height--face being one of them, but still. I have gotten all kinds of women and I'm pretty sure it wasn't because I am above average attractive. I find my looks to be neutral. I'm not making women moist as soon as I enter a room, I'm not making them nauseous either. So my personality is paramount in swaying them one way or another. 1
Pyro Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Why do many people think, and experience, right or wrongly, that good looking people have no personality? Or push the idea that they are dumb and lack substance? And I was wondering if this myth is even half true. What have your dating experiences been? And if your experiences prove the claim, why do you think that is. Part of me thinks that because humans tend to kiss the butts of very attractive people, and that because some attractive people (especially very hot women) have many things in life handed to them, that these people don't really develop much personality or book smarts. And all due to not having a need for it because fake people...us average folks, are constantly butt kissing. And when you look at stats that show how most CEO and presidents have been tall good looking men...it shows what roll looks plays into how we as people operate collectively. What say you? I'm just pondering here. I could be very wrong. I've only dated good looking people and the results have varied for me. I'm not denying that there are some women and men out there who have been given a practically free pass in life because of how they look and that gives them less of a reason to develop any sort of desired personality. It all is going to depend on their upbringing, peer pressure from friends growing up, the culture that they are surrounded by, and so forth.
Pyro Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 True. But I also know some VERY good-looking women that have tons of substances to them and some ugly, fat chicks that are insanely shallow with no substance (look at Snooki, for example). No doubt. That goes without saying.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 When it's said someone has "no personality", it's a matter of opinion. Someone's "no personality" is another person's, well, opposite. What defines a good personality? Aside from the obvious things, like being respectful, it's not universal. Yo. Stop stealing my name.
MrCastle Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Personality is the great equalizer in dating. I've been told I'm good-looking (not model-like, but the general consensus is that I'm "cute"/"hot")....and I'm short (even shorter than you). I've gotten women over tall, VERY good-looking guys because of my personality and confidence. My friends actually call me Muggsby Bogues because I fly under the radar (literally haha) and get the girl before anyone even notices her. Fly like a butterfly, sting like a bee. A short guy success story. Love it :love::cool: 1
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