lovecutsrightthruu Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 (edited) Hello, I've posted before and you've all been invaluable with your insights and comments. A summary of my situation is that I'm in a situation with this girl where she says she loves me but rarely makes the time to see me - I've seen her twice in the last 4 weeks. In fairness she has a demanding job and lives 2 hrs away; however she has made the effort to hang with various g/f's but not with me. The cynical side of me assumes that there must be another dude in the picture and I may aswell cut my losses and bolt; she says there isn't (but thats what they all say - right?). I tried to end it last week but she got really upset and hurt and said I made her feel inadequate. Then V Day came and felt bad for her on that day as I wasn't talking to her so I caved in my resolve to end it. (We ended up texting all day - BFD). Obviously I've spoken to her about my disappointment in her lack of effort and she says she loves me but she's buried with stuff. She made small efforts to hang out since the chat but I really felt they were more like token gestures on her part. I'm not buying it the 'busy' line all the way. She asked to meet me next week to hang out and talk. There's really nothing she can say though that will stop me from wanting to get out of this because I am resentful of how she has not made an effort with us. Maybe, there's a small chance that we could chat and work things out but I don't really see how. I'm tempted to not meet her and just go dark (NC) but this time on a permanent basis. Either she's seeing some dude and I'm the back-up (which I don't want to know about) or she simply doesn't have time for a relationship. In both cases, it makes us a 'non-runner'. I'm concerned that seeing her might make me even more sad that I'm losing her - I haven't see her for 2 weeks and am beginning to accept the fact that she's gone. Also there's a small chance that if I go dark that she'll see that she can't continue to take me for granted the way she has and ACTUALLY make an effort - I think somewhere in that confused heart of hers, she actually may really love me (although you can't tell from her current actions). Should I see her? Tnx so much. Edited February 18, 2013 by lovecutsrightthruu typo
cdt76 Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 There is definitely another dude. There always is. Don't bother. Go no contact and try and heal 1
Love Bytes Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 There is definitely another dude. There always is. Don't bother. Go no contact and try and heal Bull****. God, some of you people here are so cynical, it's hilarious. She may just not be that into you anymore...but do you actually have any evidence there's another dude? Or is it purely speculation? I've been in her type of situation, where I just didn't have a lot of time and she thought the same thing, even though there wasn't anyone else. Breaking up and going NC may still be the way you wanna go, but I just wouldn't ever do something based on assumption and speculation. 1
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