Author MrCastle Posted February 19, 2013 Author Posted February 19, 2013 didn't get to read all the pages, but... I will chip in, anyway: What I consider true (not necessarily true): - you are a highly attractive individual - you are successful with women - getting women was never an issue, because you got (easy) those you wanted - this means, at some level, after constantly getting all girls you wanted, it sort of wears off (hooking up) and you need to feel the thrill - for the X of Y reason, you did not necessarily get the emotional connection and you may associate that with the thrill that is missing in your life Can I ask you... out of all the beautiful, single women that are around you, why are you only talking about the ones taken? Why do you think they are all better, more interesting, more compatible with you? Is it not... because.. maybe, just maybe... they are making it more difficult for you? Mr.Castle, I may be wrong, but I think you miss a real play partner. Someone to dig you and get you, for sure, but also, someone to give you a run for your money. Your equal in seduction. And that is difficult... because most (single) girls want to be with you, anyway . And those smart enough to understand how you function are not strong enough or pretty enough to stand a fair chance. That could be why you're after someone in a more complicated situation. More of a challenge. Someone finally saying "no" to Mr. Castle, finally a provocation. I love challenges and provocations, not having that would frustrate me terribly . Listen, I apologize if I am making wrong assumptions, but you are about to create a pattern that will prove impossible to break later and might for sure get you miserable. Because after the girl manages to get out of the complicated situation ... you may not like her anymore. Ideally, you should try to really look at women, as persons, as people and not as potential sexual partners, irrespective if available of unavailable (for the moment, you got the unavailable as more interesting). When you understand what your type of girl is, it'll be easy to single her out. But I mean, a real set of values, and no just "good creative writing skills" and "big arse" won't cut it. The next big task, after understanding what type of girl you want, is how to make that girl become your gf - 'cause hooking up will never make that happen. Being patient and getting to know her will. Taking your time and building expectations, tempting and enjoying every step of journey - as opposed to clothes ripping type of passion I am sure you must be inspiring . It is very very different. on a happy note... you sound a bit to be the victim of your own success... . You have a difficult lesson ahead of yourself and that is not a joke. I think you are spot on with everything. The ones I have fallen for the most have been the ones that challenge me. I assume that is the case for most people though. We always want what we can't have. Just like women don't respect men who will bend over backwards and do anything in the name of sex, men deep down don't respect women who make it super easy to get in their pants. For me, I take pride in knowing I got a girl many other men failed at trying to get. I don't brag about hooking up with a girl that every guy who's ever met her has hooked up with. I like the exclusivity of that. Being that one guy to break through her. I constantly need to be challenged and stimulated, and most women I meet are pretty easy to read. They are either into me, or they're not. The ones that tease me are the ones that leave an impression on me. I guess the girls in a relationship are a tease because I can't be with them. Still though, I haven't found a single woman who has that "it" factor. The one that meets all my criteria. My hope is that I will find her soon.
candie13 Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 I thought so. I've dated your older, evil twin, this summer . I cannot give you a miracle solution, but I can tell you one thing: focusing on the "challenge", chasing the "high" will not make it happen for you. You will get the thrill and risk to get your fingers burnt pretty badly. And break a few hundred hearts, on the way. Understand what it is that you like in a person, more than the game of "getting the person". Another suggestion: try to give girls with personality, but less amazing looks a chance. Chances are, their brains might be such a fantastic turn on/ slap in the face, that... it'll pay for the initial "effort". The only reason I accepted to date my current guy is because your older evil twin turned me off pretty boys forever . I needed that to remember what I really think it's important to me... and what I really find sexy. I can tell you, one week ago, I had the biggest fit in the history, screamed and raised hell, dumped him via mail and text and guess what... he made me come back to him, without even as much as saying "I am sorry". Totally straight up. Amazing, I swear, I have no idea how that happened. Does he look like Brad Pitt? Hell no! Did he get the girl? Hell yes!!! I wish you find something just as good as this! But it is up to you to be wise enough to find your happiness. 1
Mary7720 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I can understand wanting to be the exception, nobody wants someone who has been with everyone else. but this...you don't like it when someone is into you? You only like to flirt/tease, or receive that...meaning you don't actually want to be with them, just enjoy the chase? Sure, it's an ego boost to have people flirt with you but all of this sounds like it's something only in you--putting walls up to avoid getting closer, going for the unavailable ones, absolutely nothing to do with the women you meet. I like to be challenged within a relationship--I flirt to move things forward and as part of a relationship, not just to waste time and tease... I constantly need to be challenged and stimulated, and most women I meet are pretty easy to read. They are either into me, or they're not. The ones that tease me are the ones that leave an impression on me. I guess the girls in a relationship are a tease because I can't be with them.
Archgirl Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 (edited) She is married. It could never work. I mean marriages end, and of course the odds of that happening if you've married young are even higher, but I am trying my very best to try and limit my interactions. It is too painful and I would never want to be the cause of a breakup, let alone a divorce. I am slowly accepting the fact that it cannot be and am more so just holding out hope that I will meet her twin somewhere down the line. Are you still in contact with your doppelaganger-hunt-inspirer? How do you handle it? Mine sent me a stupid message on Valentines day. And another yesterday. It's been making me irritable, itchy in my own skin and miserable for days. Even the current two can tell somethings up. It hurts. I guess this isn't really relevant. Sorry. I think I just needed to say it. Edited February 23, 2013 by Archgirl
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