sherry8080 Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 I graduated from college this past semester, and my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years graduates this coming May. Since beginning a LDR, we've been fortunate that I've been able to visit him at school every 2-3 weeks. Since I've been gone, I feel like he has been going to his mom for more advice than usual... more than myself. I like his mom...but I feel like she's overbearing and too involved. My mom never called me at school because she believes that if I need her, I'll call. And I did when I wanted to. If she called all the time, I'd go crazy! I like getting along on my own. My bf did some freelance work and made a lot of money. He told me that he was planning on putting it in stocks to which I said I didn't think was a good idea, but to save it. And he said, "My mom said that too!" It bothered me that he went to his mother instead of bringing it up to me. I also thought he should be old enough to make up his mind. It's happened a few times when he'll tell his mom important things before me, and I've told him that I should be up on his list and he agreed. Now it's happening again. He also admitted to not letting me know he returned home after a several-hour drive first...but his mom. In opposition... I've always put my bf first because...that's just how I am. I love him and it's my life now. My parents know I'll get a hold of them when I can. This past weekend he visited home, and I asked if I could visit him at school this coming week. He said he didn't know and he's got a lot of homework to do and that he didn't get a lot done the last time I visited. I said that it didn't seem like he had a lot but some reading and a page-and-a-half paper. Then he said "don't make me feel bad about wanting to stay caught up in my school work". What triggered it was that I said that I didn't think he had much to do. And I figure if he has homework then he should SAY something at the time. It really didn't sit well with me that he said this... very unusual of him. And this was when he was at home. Next, he was going to apply to X University for graduate school. He was going to do it before the deadline this weekend. I asked him today if he remembered to apply, and he said after a talk with his parents he decided not to because he's not interested in it (Surprise!). Just a few days ago, he said nothing of the sort, but that he can't forget to do the application. He told me today, "We had a good talk about what we want and experiencing what we want to experience." When I said, "Don't you mean what you want to experience?" he replied that's what he meant.. I'm nearly two years older than him. And what I wrote about, all happened within the past week. We are pretty serious in our relationship. Any advice? Please be respectful. Thank you so much to anyone who responds.
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