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Let's say you start seeing someone and they tell you they are not looking for anything serious and haven't been committed to anyone in 5-7 years, but they have no problem dating aka sleeping with a ton of people.

 

What is wrong with this person?

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He's between the ages of 20-30. Thats what's wrong with him. (im bitter <3)

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He's between the ages of 20-30. Thats what's wrong with him. (im bitter <3)

 

Well at the end of that spectrum...but yeah you must be right haha. I need to date older men

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Let's say you start seeing someone and they tell you they are not looking for anything serious and haven't been committed to anyone in 5-7 years, but they have no problem dating aka sleeping with a ton of people.

 

What is wrong with this person?

 

Nothing is "wrong" with the person. But if you WANT a relationship, he's probably not the right guy for you, just let him go.

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Let's say you start seeing someone and they tell you they are not looking for anything serious and haven't been committed to anyone in 5-7 years, but they have no problem dating aka sleeping with a ton of people.

 

What is wrong with this person?

 

I think it's because they find meeting people to be a ton of work and that they're afraid they're starting the "job application process" if they begin again

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What kind of question is this?

 

If something casual isn't what you want - you leave.

It really isn't a red flag - it is more don't stay and try to change someone's mind kind of thing. Which so much women do then complain about being stringed along.

 

Plus their is nothing wrong with the person - you both just want different things.

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I think it's because they find meeting people to be a ton of work and that they're afraid they're starting the "job application process" if they begin again

Like I said, this person DATES a lot. So not the issue

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It's a green flag if you want no-strings-attached sex.

 

If you are looking for a relationship--it's a blinking red neon sign.

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Define "a ton of people".

Sleeping with/dating 2-3 people at the same time

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What kind of question is this?

 

If something casual isn't what you want - you leave.

It really isn't a red flag - it is more don't stay and try to change someone's mind kind of thing. Which so much women do then complain about being stringed along.

 

Plus their is nothing wrong with the person - you both just want different things.

 

Nothing wrong with a person that never gets emotionally invested for years and years? To me there is something wrong, but maybe I'm alone in this.

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Nothing wrong with a person that never gets emotionally invested for years and years? To me there is something wrong, but maybe I'm alone in this.

 

They don't want a relationship.

Chances are they are young, having fun, meeting people, going out with friends...

Relationships are work and you are tied to one person, there are points in life where people don't want that. eventually he will.

 

Nothing is wrong with him.

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Nothing wrong with a person that never gets emotionally invested for years and years? To me there is something wrong, but maybe I'm alone in this.

What does it matter what is wrong with him?

 

What matters is that he isn't looking for the same thing as you.

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::bangs head on desk::

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