bellalove Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 I met a guy in 2006 on my last day of spring break in Mexico. We fooled around and exchanged names for adding one another to facebook but that was about it. We were 8 hrs away from one another so neither one of us tried to maintain contact after that trip. I heard from him this past fall - he told me that although he didn't know me very well he wanted me to know how gorgeous I am. I thanked him and we started talking - at first by facebook, progressing to texting then the phone. We talked all day from the time we got up (lots of good morning beautiful texts) until the time we said good night - whether it was on the phone or by text. I had moved to a city much closer to him, so he is only 2.5 hrs away now and he came up one weekend and we really hit it off. It was an amazing weekend - we have all these crazy little things in common and he kept telling me how crazy he is about me. When he left, we made plans to see each other after the holidays - it was very busy for the two of us. Things were better than ever and literally one week before I was supposed to see him again he drops off the face of the planet it seemed like. Not answering texts/calls/facebook messages etc. I was utterly confused - we didn't fight or have any type of falling out. I ended up hearing from him a few days after he stopped talking to me - by facebook. He said he was having second thoughts because of the distance and also was struggling with anxiety. My thoughts on it were if there was another girl involved but I didn't ask him. I just told him that I was sorry to hear about that and I wanted it to work between us and that I was willing to do what it takes cause I wanted to be with him. I kind of left it at that and didn't bother him again. I did creep tho on his fb and there are absolutely no posts about him involving another girl, there are new pics but none that are with any new girls (just friends that are girls - I know they are not a threat), there are no new FRIENDS even that are girls. So I don't get the feeling there was a 3rd party involved. I googled "guys becoming distant" and found many different forums - some saying that guys need space all of a sudden is normal. That's never happened to me before. Others say he juts plain lost interest. I'm not even sure because he was SO intent on seeing me again - even up until the day before he just stopped talking to me. Well a week ago he commented on a new pic I had posted saying "damn looking good" - I replied with a thank you. Then on valentines day he texted me telling me happy vday, asking how i am, saying I was special, that he wanted to see me again and when would i come visit him etc. I'm not sure what this means. I haven't heard from him since then (but I am 100% making him try first, I shouldn't have to should i?). What I would like help on would be - 1.) could somebody tell me what they think his intentions are - hookup? relationship? starting up where we left off? 2.) what should I do - make him come to me first? try with him first? 3.) has anybody been in a situation like this before - what happened and how did you handle it?
outsidethebox Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 He backed out of relationship, and not very gracefully. I would look for another relationship and in meantime use him for whatever is enjoyable for you, if anything.
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