thesaka24 Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 I really love my girlfriend, I cant explain how much and why I love her so much but I just do. When we first broke up, I broke up with her, because I still liked my ex and had some other stuff going on in my life, but she never gave up, she always took my **** and still stayed, when I was angry, sad...everything. And now we are together again, thanks to her not giving up. Now she comes to my place everyday, well almost everyday and we cuddle, kiss, talk... We didn't have sex, since I respect her, and I told her if you want it, then we will do it. But we do some pervy stuff...(I kiss her boobs, put my arm in her pants...she puts her arm in my pants and sooo) I think we might have sex soon, since she told me something like that. So I wanted to ask, what should I do, how should I go about this? She is virgin btw. Oh and I'm 18, she is 16. I don't want to cause her pain or something...I want her to feel good. Is it ok for her to come to my place so often ? And do you have any advice maybe ?
ja123 Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 She is very young. Is 16 legal where you live?
Author thesaka24 Posted February 18, 2013 Author Posted February 18, 2013 I guess. I mean, I heard about other girls her age having sex, some even got pregnant. I know most of these girls, so its not a big deal.
Author thesaka24 Posted February 19, 2013 Author Posted February 19, 2013 I don't know why you got rough, but I do care for her, and I had experience before so its not like I don't know how girl can get pregnant and all that. I'm not going to jump on her and do it for mine satisfaction only. We did talk about it,and we will use protection, but I just wanted to know more.
Author thesaka24 Posted February 19, 2013 Author Posted February 19, 2013 So you would break up with someone that you love/like, how ever you wanna define it, just because that someone is under age ? Are you kidding me ? Her age doesn't necessarily have to tell how she thinks. And looks like you guys didn't get what I was trying to say. Its not like we will have sex because we are in love so much that we want everything from each other. I told her, when you are ready. I already had sex like hundreds of times so I'm not going to die if I don't have sex with her. And I know what "I love you" means, I know what is behind it, those are not just words and feelings , there is more to it. Its about caring, protecting the person you love and waaaaay more than that. So don't school me what love is. I asked is it OK for her to come to my place so often, and can I get some kind of advice. One dude said, research and learn about women body, so I am. And she is not going to get pregnant and non of us wont get any disease, because when it gets to sex we will first go see doctor and consult with him, and we will use protection so don't worry about that, I'm not stupid to become father at 18.
ja123 Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 ok You said you'll use contraception, but what kind? Who will use it and who will pay for it? ... at the very least, you should wrap it (use a condom) if she's not on the pill. There's the morning after pill if the condom were to break. And, yes, you should make an appointment with the doctor a.s.a.p., because if she's over at your place every day, then you two probably won't wait for sex much longer. So get your plan in place. As for sex with a virgin girl. Girls can get nervous about first time sex, and this tenseness can add to the initial pain. If she's too tense for you to enter, then you can have her lay on her stomach, and give her a massage to help her to relax, then gently take her from behind while she's laying totally flat on her stomach. good luck
AMusing Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Is it ok for her to come to my place so often ? I'm guessing that this question is the one you really wanted answered, yes? Sex advice too, sure, but if that's all that was going on I think you'd probably be posting this in the sexuality forum, or looking up advice online. I'm guessing the answer to your (quoted) question is, "No, it's not really ok." Not because it's never ok for a couple to see each other every day (double negative, ugh), but because it's something that bothers you enough to write about on a dating forum. All you write about your girlfriend is how she's stuck with you through all your ****. You don't write about how much you love her, how she drives you crazy, how you feel lucky she gave you a second chance.... None of that. You respect her and don't want to hurt her, but while that's admirable it's not love. I think the other posters are picking up on that, and upset that you might seriously hurt your girlfriend (emotionally) if she loses her virginity to you. Especially since she is very young. Your post makes you come across as a guy trying to do the right thing with this girl, but who isn't really crazy about her. If that's the case, you probably should have a little more space between you (don't see each other daily), and definitely hold off on sex for a while. And since you probably won't listen to my advice to hold off if she offers sex, I'll jump on the safe sex bandwagon. Seriously, at the bare minimum: condoms and STD check before any sex (even oral).
Author thesaka24 Posted February 19, 2013 Author Posted February 19, 2013 Thanks a lot! Two last comments are really helpful (No sarcasm or something) Well I didn't wanna write about that, how she drives me crazy and how much I love her,I thought that isn't really important,but, I mean, dude, she bought me a stuffed heart and she put some of perfume she uses on it, now every time I smell it , it drives me crazy, I just wanna kiss her and aaajhasjkh its crazy...As for that, do I love her ? Well few days ago I was so scared that I might lose her, just check my previous thread . She is amazing, and I cant explain how much I love her, and how grateful I am to her that she never gave up on us, I mean, man, I could have lost such amazing girl without even knowing it. @AMusing And I got it under control now, she isn't at my place everyday anymore, now she visits 3 times a week maybe. No, I wont have sex with her right away, no-no. Its something in my head, but , when she asks me to have sex, I will decline her for some time so I can prove that I'm not about that at all, as I said, something in my head.
ja123 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I think the other posters are picking up on that, and upset that you might seriously hurt your girlfriend (emotionally) if she loses her virginity to you. Especially since she is very young. And since you probably won't listen to my advice to hold off if she offers sex, I'll jump on the safe sex bandwagon. Seriously, at the bare minimum: condoms and STD check before any sex (even oral). I'm glad to hear that you have feelings for this girl, but it sounds like she could really get hurt if you're not serious about her. There are are some potential big emotional reprecussions at play, here. It'd be worth talking to her about it. How she feels, and how she might feel if things weren't to work out, etc. She's clearly in love with you. How do you feel about that? Do you want her as a girlfriend? A serious girlfriend?
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