targaryen Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 The break up happened 16 days ago and since then I've had two separate breakdown episodes where I ended up sending several emails, text messages, and making several calling attempts. I feel quite confident that this won't happen again, however....I can't figure out one thing about this whole darned NC business - how do I trick myself to not check her blog? I've blocked her on every social network imaginable and although she switched the blog's url I still found it and keep refreshing it about 20 times a day...through it I get scraps on what she's doing and how she's doing. I know that checking a website isn't strictly contact...but I'm classifying it as such in that it's not helping me move on. Some of the posts even reference us. However this feels like digital stalking to me, doesn't make me feel any better, really, but I can't stop! I tried browser extensions but it's so easy to disable them or just load the site from another device.
Own Worst Enemy Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 It's the only way, sadly. Sooner or later you are going to see something you really don't want to see. Much better to cut it now, whilst you are in control.
TaraMaiden Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Get someone else to block it for you, or get them to put a pasrental control block on it.... If you know you're being dumb - why be dumb? If the buzz-saw is whizzing round, are you going to keep testing whether it's sharp, with your finger? 1
Inviv_girl Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 How about if you see her posting good sh!* with someone else, romantic pictures maybe? You certainly hurting yourself by checking her up through any social media internet.. or whatever. I know it is hard, but you must practice yourself, and to not even think about it. You need to be strong and stick to your NC will. You know it will do you good and help you to move on if you stop checkin up on her from any media.
Author targaryen Posted February 18, 2013 Author Posted February 18, 2013 Thanks guys. I've asked her best friend to subtly suggest that she should change her blog url (without telling her I know it) so I can't find it ever again. It's very difficult but soon as you said she will be posting things that show she's over me and it's better to do it now. still. it was a very difficult decision.
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