Casablanca Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Growing up, relationships and dating are a very popular topic for movies and shows and they always seem to paint similar pictures for how dating should go, which from my experiences are completely opposite to how they like to portray things. My biggest misconceptions was firstly Women don't want sex as much as men. This seems to be painted a lot in the media, men complaining about their women not wanting to sleep with them or they only having sex a couple times a month, where counter to that, every woman I've dated have had as high of a sex drive as me. If we hadn't had time to have sex in a week because of our schedules, we'd set up quick sex sessions like after class and before work (well when I was in school) or things like that. That you shouldn't call the day after the first date. The media seems to show that women don't want a "needy" man, which is true as no man wants a "needy" woman too. But calling the next evening to say hi and trying to set up a second date isn't needy, it is just showing interest and if she is interested, she'll appreciate that. Just don't berate them will calls and texts and you should be fine. If you don't make a move soon enough, you'll be put in the "friendzone" I really use to worry about this, but then I realized just how big of a farce this was. You don't get put in the FZ unless they woman isn't interested in you. Sure you can lose your chance if you take way too long to actually increase the progression of the potential relationship, but if you don't kiss her until the 3rd date, she isn't going to mind if she likes you. Just dont ignore her and wait 3 days to call her and you'll be fine What are some other dating misconceptions you use to have because of the media?
KungFuJoe Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 I guess I was lucky that I was pretty "oblivious" to social norms back when I was dating. I was pretty clueless, really, and did everything by trial and error. But I agree with op...those things mentioned, now that I'm more "aware" of what's going on in the social world (especially lately) I can see how movies would portray those VERY incorrect stereotypes. Swingers perpetrated the whole "don't call right away" deal. Countless movies always portray women who sleep around as "dumb" and guys who do as "studs". Ever see the movie "What's Your Number?" with Anna Faris and Chris Evans? Holy crap what a HORRIBLE piece of **** movie that was. And then the whole friendzone thing. Wow...what a joke that is. I've actually seen articles in men's magazines about how to avoid this so called friendzone. Which is lame because the SAME men's magazines have articles that state women know if they want to sleep with a man within 5 minutes of meeting him.
MsSmurf Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 That you shouldn't call the day after the first date. The media seems to show that women don't want a "needy" man, which is true as no man wants a "needy" woman too. But calling the next evening to say hi and trying to set up a second date isn't needy, it is just showing interest and if she is interested, she'll appreciate that. Just don't berate them will calls and texts and you should be fine. What are some other dating misconceptions you use to have because of the media? I totally agree that not calling the day after a first date is a misconception. If I am into a guy then I want to make sure he's on my schedule as soon as possible for another date. Otherwise I'll make other plans while he farts around for several days only to then call and find out I'm busy. I would also say its a misconception that all women take several hours to get ready for a date. Movies make it out to be this grand all day affair in which the woman conveniently doesn't have to be at work so she can go to the salon, get a mani/pedi, go shopping with gal pals for a new outfit, have her friends over hours before helping her get ready, rejecting multiple outfits, testing new makeups, etc. I don't know any women, myself included, who actually do this. Most women I know including myself are ready in less than an hour. I also think its a misconception that women should always be passive because that is what guys want. How many movies have we seen where the woman is on a date and ends up doing something or eating something she totally hates and pretends to love it just because she wants the guy to stick around? Blech no way. If something doesn't work for me I'll just say so and suggest alternatives until we find something that works for both of us.
mesmerized Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 The biggest lie in movies of all is that you can sleep with a man the first night you meet him and he will still fall madly in love with you. Not saying it never happens but in reality he will just label you as a "slut" in his mind and stops seeing you as relationship material. In general, movies and media show men much more nicer and relationship oriented than what they actually are.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 In general, movies and media show men much more nicer and relationship oriented than what they actually are. I feel that way too. Except about women.
Fatdrifter Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Growing up, relationships and dating are a very popular topic for movies and shows and they always seem to paint similar pictures for how dating should go, which from my experiences are completely opposite to how they like to portray things. My biggest misconceptions was firstly Women don't want sex as much as men. This seems to be painted a lot in the media, men complaining about their women not wanting to sleep with them or they only having sex a couple times a month, where counter to that, every woman I've dated have had as high of a sex drive as me. If we hadn't had time to have sex in a week because of our schedules, we'd set up quick sex sessions like after class and before work (well when I was in school) or things like that. That you shouldn't call the day after the first date. The media seems to show that women don't want a "needy" man, which is true as no man wants a "needy" woman too. But calling the next evening to say hi and trying to set up a second date isn't needy, it is just showing interest and if she is interested, she'll appreciate that. Just don't berate them will calls and texts and you should be fine. If you don't make a move soon enough, you'll be put in the "friendzone" I really use to worry about this, but then I realized just how big of a farce this was. You don't get put in the FZ unless they woman isn't interested in you. Sure you can lose your chance if you take way too long to actually increase the progression of the potential relationship, but if you don't kiss her until the 3rd date, she isn't going to mind if she likes you. Just dont ignore her and wait 3 days to call her and you'll be fine What are some other dating misconceptions you use to have because of the media? That everyone got ****ed and everyone got happy. Naturally, now everyone's afraid of getting ****ed and guys apparently are committing unspeakable crimes just by having a phallus.
Harradin Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 You see in films, that the ex leaves the guy, then the guy does some sort of romantic gesture and she leaves the guy she left him for and runs back into her ex's arms and they live happily ever after. However, an ex won't come running back into your arms if you try to get them back by using a grand romantic gesture, its still not going to change their mind if they chose to leave you. Nor is it going to win your ex back from someone else she left you for. As I found out when I tried to get my ex back when she left me for someone else, I spent hours on a romantic video that I thought was 95% going to work and appeal to her, only for it to not work out, she lead me on and then she rejected me, and stayed with the guy she left me for.
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