Regist Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Hi! I would like to get some help.. I'm a decent looking/nice guy and I have no problem getting a woman's interest, nor do I have a problem talking/flirting with them.. The problem is AFTER I have a nice encounter with a member of the female species I'm like 99% sure she likes me, I just always get this HUGE fear of rejection and I have a hard time taking it further. Like asking if she wants to hang out, asking for her number etc.. WHY is this? Because my mind tells me "This is going well" but still I won't take it to the next step.. And this results in the women thinking that I don't have any interest in them and just kind of give up on me and don't talk to me the same way anymore, like I let them down or something it feels like. And I hate it! And it's especially a problem now since I really like this girl but I think I've messed it up big-time (this is where I need major advice).. So I met her at a club (surprise surprise) but I've semi-known her before, we hooked up and the next day I did write to her and stuff, the problem is because of my fear of rejection I just kept it at a "nice" level, I just had a normal conversation, like you would with a friend if I only had asked if she wanted to do something she probably would've said yes.. But that's a few weeks back and I have talked to her IRL after that but she seems dissapointed in me (if that's the right word to use) it's hard to explain, she doesn't write anymore either and don't seem that interested.. What do I do?? Sorry for the long text and I hope what I wrote makes sense.
RebelWithoutACause Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 When you say you have a huge fear of rejection, what exactly is scaring you so much? What's the worst that cat happen? If she says "no" how are you going to be any worse off than now?
Author Regist Posted February 17, 2013 Author Posted February 17, 2013 When you say you have a huge fear of rejection, what exactly is scaring you so much? What's the worst that cat happen? If she says "no" how are you going to be any worse off than now? That's the thing, I DON'T KNOW.. I get that the worst that can happen is a 'no', still scares me for some reason. What I would like advice on is how to handle this situation since I've let it "cool off" for too long or how I should put it.. Because everytime I talk to her now it's like I've done something to her, like she's dissapointed in me or something.. I dunno
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