Daisyjameson Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Was seeing awful guy, (I mean the word awful). swore at me, picked at my confidence, texted other girls in my presence(in my house even), took me to strip clubs, ditched me constantly, slept with other ladies, so the list goes on. On the other hand I was so nice to him, presents, cooked, cleaned, helped, the works blah blah blah. Since going into NC im feeling better,starting to hate him a bit(something I couldnt do), BUT I wonder, do such people ever regret hurting others? or do they just go on living happy days? Your thoughts?
KatZee Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 People like that? Nope. They don't regret it. There are certain people in the world known as a: B.ackstabbers A.busers I.mposters T.akers E.xploiters R.eckless **Life Code by Dr. Phil McGraw The guy used you for everything you had, and was a "taker." You treated him like a husband and he just abused you, took from you, exploited your kindness, was reckless with the relationship (cheating). BUT he had the perfect set up. He treated you like garbage and the more he treated you like garbage, the more you treated him like a king. What reason does he have to regret anything? There will always be naive, insecure, and broken women who will accept meager crumbs from an abusive person. 4
Hopeful714 Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Sorry, but they continue on living "happy days" as they just find a new doormat to replace the old one. And, there is always a replacement...so no need for them to feel bad. There is some sick attraction to these types as obviously you tolerated it, I tolerated it, and if you read the stories on here, many others do as well....until they wake up one day and think...WTF?....I deserve a bit better then this. Chalk it up to you picked an apple with a worm in it. Throw him away and find better. As I like to say...let him be the problem of someone else now...as you know he most certainly will. 1
destroyed4sho Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 No they don't regret it. Everyday that they don't express regret and wanting you back is another day they do not regret their decision. They have already checked out a long time ago and they are relieved it is over. This guys sounded like a total jerk and I agree with comments above.
Author Daisyjameson Posted February 17, 2013 Author Posted February 17, 2013 I guess you guys are right! Was the most painful experience of my life. Do you girls think such men CHANGE for the next lady?
KatZee Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 I guess you guys are right! Was the most painful experience of my life. Do you girls think such men CHANGE for the next lady? They don't change PERIOD. That means they don't change with you and they don't change with the next. They will continue on their merry way, as I already said... because there will ALWAYS be some insecure and broken girl willing to put up with his s.hit. He will just seek those weak people out and exploit them as well. I should have seen the way my ex treated his ex before me and run for the hills. He treated her like absolute garbage when they ended. And the way he left her, he left me. And he'll do it to the next girl he's with, so he's someone else's problem now. 2
destroyed4sho Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Yes, my ex always BRAGGED about how awful she was to her exes. This rattled me bc i felt like why would you do that to someone? Will she do.that to me too? I was really insecure about this and questioned early on if i can trust.this person. But i guess i began trusting.us bc she would say how great she was treating me and that.she loved me beyond and abive her exes. So i thought.maybe i was better then.her exes and she would really love me and treat me right. I was WRONG! dont think.they change...only when they see they will get.something out of.it.
big bear Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 People change only when the consequences of their actions hit them. Imagine the most appetizing dessert you can think of. Would you stop eating it if it caused no problems. Won't make you gain weight, won't effect your metabolism and all that.. You will have it everyday. Hell, you will prefer it over anything else until you get bored and then you will move on to the next dessert.
Author Daisyjameson Posted February 17, 2013 Author Posted February 17, 2013 and here I am worrying that he treats her like a princess when he treated me like crap!:
KatZee Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Yes, my ex always BRAGGED about how awful she was to her exes. This rattled me bc i felt like why would you do that to someone? Will she do.that to me too? I was really insecure about this and questioned early on if i can trust.this person. At least you acknowledged that red flag when it was waving! My ex did the same thing! He once said to me, "I treated (XX his exgf) like crap and she loved me so much that she just allowed it." And then he did the same to me! I'm sure he'll be saying to his next gf-- "I treated both my exes like crap and they loved me so much they just allowed it." They Don't Change.
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