d0620 Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Is it just me or do I feel like I need to go on vacation to get myself together. I am at work but I really am not there. My work gets backed up and I am feeling like its out of my control. I mean I literally fell asleep at my desk. I go to work on the weekend just for peace and I do nothing. Thank goodness for a long weekend...
Love Bytes Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 It affected me for the first week or two. After that I just made sure I was constantly busy at work. I assume this is pretty fresh? There's no timetable, because it's different for everyone... Good luck.
treezy Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 It's terrible for me since my ex was working at where I'm currently working before so it's definitely affecting me. I'm actively looking for another job now.
Joella2014 Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 It definitely affects me. I am at work right now and have been staring at my screen for hours, and constantly refreshing the page on this site! My coworkers are annoying me, everything is annoying me. I would rather be at home all by myself! J.
Author d0620 Posted February 17, 2013 Author Posted February 17, 2013 It affected me for the first week or two. After that I just made sure I was constantly busy at work. I assume this is pretty fresh? There's no timetable, because it's different for everyone... Good luck. Yes it happened on Valentine's Day.i just can't come to terms with spending time with anyone rather Friends, Relationship or whatever 3-4 days a week for 8 months and then you send a text saying "we should end this" I will not be responding anymore and now it's 3 days later and he hasn't responded to any of my text. I sent texts for 2 days, none today. I was thinking to wait 30 days to see if he calls me and if he doesn't I will call him. Allow some time to pass.
mammasita Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Yes, my work was affected.....Alot. I was crying at my desk, making mistakes I wouldn't normally make etc.... If you can afford to take some time off, do it (but not if you're only gonna sit home and wallow).....I really couldn't. I'm doing better now, not 100% but not a complete mess at work anymore.
A n t h o n y Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 I work with my Ex so its dreadful. but I took off any days I would have worked with her and i switched my availability so I wouldn't have to see her
KatZee Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Omg I was with my ex through two companies. The first time we were having issues I was a WRECK at work. I barely did any work. I slacked off, I was a zombie and just sat at my desk making mistake after mistake when prior to that, I was great! I was eventually laid off from that job (not because of my performance) but I got a new and much better job, more money, much more responsibility, better title... and my ex dumped me while I was at that job. I knew I couldn't let him get to me at this job. There was way too much at stake. Too many deadlines, too many people relying on me to get things moving and completed. He didn't affect my current job at all. I'm sure if he had gotten under my skin I would be fired right now. No person is ever worth you being let go for, no person is worth you screwing up your life, and your income, ESPECIALLY when the job market is as bad as it is now. Keep that s.hit at home where it belongs.
Daisyjameson Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 I let mine **** up my university degree! so now im degree-less!
na49 Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Right after the BU I was super motivated. She was in two of my classes so I wanted to make sure I did extra well in those classes just to shove it in her face. As time went on though, I became less and less motivated and now I still have a hard time getting myself going. I have a bunch of schoolwork that I need to finish and have no motivation to do it right now. All I want to do is talk to my ex.
newsbug Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 I work in a room with glass walls and a lot of monitors around...it's a control room for a news station...I had just gotten an email from him mom talking about how sad she was about everything and junk...I couldnt' stop crying. I just couldn't. And the news was starting so I couldn't just go hide in the bathroom or something. So I was sitting there, sobbing, and I see my boss looking at me through the window. Just standing and looking and I still couldn't stop crying. He finally came in and walked past me as if he had been looking at the monitor behind me instead. It's awful. I just wish I could lay down and die.
Apolodor Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 The worst part for me was the lunch hour when I was expected to be in the cafeteria making chit-chat with my colleagues (with whom I have very little in common). I used to skip lunch and take my car for a 30-45 mins drive in the countryside while listening to some of my favourite music. Certainly the fuel bill increases, but it's still a lot cheaper than going to see a shrink!
Chloe1980 Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 I cannot concentrate in anything. Im constantly thinking on him, cannot work, cannot study, I feel miserable and pathetic. 10 days since "breakup" (I dont know even how to call it, never said goodbye) and 24 hours since NC. I dont remember feeling so bad in my entire life.
targaryen Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 For me it happened 2 weeks ago - I couldn't allow myself to become unfocused in the first week due to it being the last days of a huge, career-defining project I was handling. However this week it has all come crashing down. All my team mates and bosses have noticed that I'm slacking off, producing lower quality work etc...I've even had breakdowns crying in the bathroom and most days I spend trying to focus but instead aimlessly clicking around the web....How can I get out of this phase so I can continue doing my job (which I love)?
Apolodor Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 go home and get really drunk, scream, listen to music loud -- sometimes it helps.
stevie_23 Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Back in June last year when my ex left me for a month (I didn’t realise he’d come back after that point), my work was maintained but only on a basic level. I went onto auto-pilot. Couldn’t think. Left the office early a few days in that first week. Just couldn’t think. Couldn’t eat. Couldn’t sleep. I was called into the manager’s office at the end of that first week after he left, and I was worried I was going to lose my job on top of everything else, but nah, they just wanted to see if I wanted extra hours. I thought what the hell, I don’t have anything else to spend my free time on now, do I!? lol. When he left me for good in December last year, my work went back on auto-pilot again, and I spent a lot of time staring into space. In a way though, being at work is a comforting distraction (if it’s not too stressful of course) and it’s something to do. Whereas before, I used to be resistant to coming into the office because I had so many things I wanted to do at home (do videos for my ex, email him, chat with him, make music, etc), nowadays it’s sometimes easier NOT to have hours of free time to just sit around at home by myself, thinking and thinking… My work is as a typist / secretary so I can get away with “switching off” and just typing sometimes. I was grateful for that.
Inviv_girl Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 I left my job as soon as my break up, I was really in a big messed and in total wreck I couldnt concentrate to my work at all!!! he really got under my skin and took the best in me
Author d0620 Posted February 18, 2013 Author Posted February 18, 2013 I am hoping to sleep the day away tomorrow, read inspirational stuff and cry all day. Then hopefully I can go to work fresh on Tuesday and gain a better handle of my work.
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