Locust Posted February 17, 2013 Share Posted February 17, 2013 (edited) I'm a 26 year old senior in college (excited almost done) and I always wonder how dating affects oneself because of your living situation. I hear 2 sides to this story saying women are turned off by a guy living at home and some say they'll accept for a good reason. This one of the reasons why I don't ask any girls out on a date because she may get turned off by living at home. However, aren't relationships suppose to be based on true feelings and not the person assets and living conditions? I think this thought in my mind is ruining a dating life I never even started. I guess if this will hurt all dating then I maybe visiting escorts after all for some companionship. Edited February 17, 2013 by Locust Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted February 17, 2013 Share Posted February 17, 2013 I'm a 26 year old senior in college (excited almost done) and I always wonder how dating affects oneself because of your living situation. I hear 2 sides to this story saying women are turned off by a guy living at home and some say they'll accept for a good reason. This one of the reasons why I don't ask any girls out on a date because she may get turned off by living at home. However, aren't relationships suppose to be based on true feelings and not the person assets and living conditions? I think this thought in my mind is ruining a dating life I never even started. To me the only time a woman would be concerned if a guy is living at home in this day and age where people are returning to live in parental homes because of the rising cost of living.......the only reason it would be uncomfortable or have prominance in their mind, if sex was involved...if its a dating scenario then the sex shouldnt be an issue ......so if you have an understanding woman......in mind to date who isnt wanting to start a sexual relationship while dating you shouldnt have to worry....in my opinion....deb Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted February 17, 2013 Share Posted February 17, 2013 I am a year younger than you, same position though. Has not affected my dating life at all. A thread like this was made recently but I'll just say what I said there. I've never been rejected for living at home, but if I was, the girl wouldn't deserve a guy like me anyway if she was gonna rule me out just for that. Good riddance I'd say. Relationships are more complex than just "where does he live". Personality/attraction should win over all. If not, they weren't my type to begin with. Link to post Share on other sites
MsSmurf Posted February 17, 2013 Share Posted February 17, 2013 I'm a 26 year old senior in college (excited almost done) and I always wonder how dating affects oneself because of your living situation. I hear 2 sides to this story saying women are turned off by a guy living at home and some say they'll accept for a good reason. This one of the reasons why I don't ask any girls out on a date because she may get turned off by living at home. However, aren't relationships suppose to be based on true feelings and not the person assets and living conditions? I think this thought in my mind is ruining a dating life I never even started. I guess if this will hurt all dating then I maybe visiting escorts after all for some companionship. When I was in college I felt it depended on how and why a guy lived with his parents. The few guys my age that I dated at that time that still lived with their parents were full time students, employed at least part time, and handled their own business. What I mean is that their mom wasn't doing their laundry, making their bed, and cooking all of their meals. These guys also did chores around the house and often paid a little rent as well. To me this was important because it demonstrated the ability and desire to be independent. The guys I met that lived at home with mom doing everything for them I didn't date because it was clear that they'd either never want to move out or if they did I'd have to take over mom's duties. No thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Brunettie Posted February 17, 2013 Share Posted February 17, 2013 Don't let that affect your dating life at all. Don't let it hinder you asking out a girl you're interested in. Go ask her out. You're a full time student finishing up your degree, there is nothing wrong with that. I repeat. Do not let that hinder you from asking out a girl you are interested in. Link to post Share on other sites
Casablanca Posted February 17, 2013 Share Posted February 17, 2013 No quality woman is going to be put off by a guy living at home while he is in school. Going to school is expensive, save some money so you don't have to stress yourself out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Locust Posted February 17, 2013 Author Share Posted February 17, 2013 When I was in college I felt it depended on how and why a guy lived with his parents. The few guys my age that I dated at that time that still lived with their parents were full time students, employed at least part time, and handled their own business. What I mean is that their mom wasn't doing their laundry, making their bed, and cooking all of their meals. These guys also did chores around the house and often paid a little rent as well. To me this was important because it demonstrated the ability and desire to be independent. The guys I met that lived at home with mom doing everything for them I didn't date because it was clear that they'd either never want to move out or if they did I'd have to take over mom's duties. No thanks. I agree with this, with what you said. I wouldn't want a lazy person either. I do the cleaning and cooking. Sometimes my mother would cook and I cook with recipes I find online. I make my own teriyaki chicken, and other dishes. Nothing wrong going on online getting recipes and doing yourself creative meals. One of my 5 uncles who is married is like that, his wife does the cooking all the time. He said when she is not home, he just buy fast-food or a microwavable dinner. My mother started showing me how to cook when I was a 11 and show me other things during my teen years. Link to post Share on other sites
MsSmurf Posted February 17, 2013 Share Posted February 17, 2013 I agree with this, with what you said. I wouldn't want a lazy person either. I do the cleaning and cooking. Sometimes my mother would cook and I cook with recipes I find online. I make my own teriyaki chicken, and other dishes. Nothing wrong going on online getting recipes and doing yourself creative meals. One of my 5 uncles who is married is like that, his wife does the cooking all the time. He said when she is not home, he just buy fast-food or a microwavable dinner. My mother started showing me how to cook when I was a 11 and show me other things during my teen years. Then I think you're off to a good start. If you make it clear to the woman you're interested in that you can and do take care of yourself then you'll be just fine. The key is to not constantly dwell on the fact that you live with your parents. Just mention it casually like "yeah my parents are very supportive of my academic goals and have allowed me to live at home inexpensively provided I stay in school and handle my own household tasks" then move on to another topic. Don't complain about your parents. Don't complain about a lack of privacy. Don't complain about having to do household tasks. You will probably appeal to other women who are doing exactly what you're doing or women who did what you're doing and just moved out. Link to post Share on other sites
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