Mushvitz Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Id been with a younger girl since last april and for both of us it was our first relationship that lasted a half decent amount of time, we absolutely loved each other's company and we found ways to see each other as much as possible even though neither of our families really knew about it. Things were amazing and looking back on it i had some of the best days of my life with her. Then i went to uni in a different city and it became so hard. We would text everyday and call each other sometimes but due to neither of us having much money and the fact that our relationship was a secret we couldnt visit each other, we couldnt even videochat or anything like that and i thought of her so much and i missed her the entire time. It was during this first term that we first started thinking it might not work out between us and it was killing me but we managed to last until the christmas holidays. After 3 months without seeing her I only got to see her 3 times over the holiday. Before i went back to uni again i gave her a jumper, bear and a belly bar (she wanted a piercing) all to remind her of me so it was easier. In my second semester all my flatmates seemed to be having their bfs/gfs around and it was horrible. every so often someone would ask how i did it and say they would find it impossible to have a relationship if they couldnt see the person. On the 11th i called her up and i broke it off with her, she was in tears and i felt like i totally crushed her but it just wasnt reasonable for us to be together if we couldnt see each other because it caused so much pain. Thats what i thought when i did it and now i miss her so much and i need her back and i cant deal with the thought that i hurt her and that she could be moving on from me when all i can do is listen to stupid sad songs and try and figure out how to get her back. It been less than a week!!!! obviously itd be just cruel for me to suddenly beg for her back but i cant think of anything i want to do more I have no idea what the hell to do.
destroyed4sho Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Umm..... all u have to do is take those pretty.little fingers of yours and call her. I hope your not messing with an underaged teeny, in which case i hope you have the blessings if her parents first. In some way, i hope she doesnt.take you back bc you really dont deserve it. You broke up with her and now you want her back..what is she a rag doll you can toss around?? I hope she rejects you. 1
Author Mushvitz Posted February 17, 2013 Author Posted February 17, 2013 no shes not underage of course i dont see her as a ragdoll, but i knew from experience and from her messages that the long distance was hurting her and i didnt want that so i made the **** decision that id prefer her hurt to end than for me to drag it on, which i know was her choice to make but i didnt want her to have to make such a **** choice either and now i think i made the wrong decision
radinna82 Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 I think if you really love each other, you should be able to overcome the circumstance. Maybe its hard not to see each other but if she was that devastated, then you know she loves you. At least call her and talk about it.
destroyed4sho Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 How can you tell that the distance between.the two of.you was hurting.her?
TaraMaiden Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 If you really - REALLY - want her back, this is what, absolutely, you must send her, word for word: "Look, I think I really screwed up. I never realised how much I missed you until I let you go. This is awful, and it's all my fault. I would desperately love a chance to prove to you that not only do I sincerely want you back, but I would be willing to do whatever it takes to make it up to you, and prove that I'm sincere. No messing. I'll walk over burning coals if necessary. What would it take for you to forgive me, so that I can try again?" This is true, honest and sincere and as genuine an attempt at reconciliation as you could ever get. Anything else won't wash. The thing is: Do you feel sufficiently like this, to mean every word? if you do, then dammit man - grab the opportunity and send it! You may never get another chance!! 1
destroyed4sho Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 If you really - REALLY - want her back, this is what, absolutely, you must send her, word for word: This is true, honest and sincere and as genuine an attempt at reconciliation as you could ever get. Anything else won't wash. The thing is: Do you feel sufficiently like this, to mean every word? if you do, then dammit man - grab the opportunity and send it! You may never get another chance!! Yes, true.....but... This guy took it upon himself to break up with her, if she was hurting so bad she would of done it herself but he made the decision for her... and further is indecisive. If he really meant all that above he would of written it and sent it already.
TaraMaiden Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Yup, I agree, he should. But this guy's young and has probably never experienced a LDR before.... Let's see what he says.....
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