creighton0123 Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Amazing night tonight. Great dinner with my family and then out with two friends. Met a cousin, her husband, and another good friend at the local watering hole. We all decided that this local bar/restaurant in the sticks was the perfect place to celebrate my new life as a single gay man. Got some strange looks from some purple haired ladies, but most people were laughing and buying me a few drinks. I feel good. Made sure to not get drunk,though. It's still the sticks after all. And not everyone is friendly to the gayz. Hopefully this new higher sense of singleness will persist for the 5 hour drive home tomorrow. One week after the breakup and I am doing just fine. Thoughts of him are fewer in between and spark much less anxiety. 2
th90 Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 While everyone else is taking an emotionally fueled roller-coaster ride, you're riding on a bullet train
CautionaryTale Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Hey Creighton, I'm glad to hear that you're doing so well, sounds like you're having a great weekend anyway! Purple haired ladies have to stare, their eye sights not so good - thus the purple hair. No worries there. Make sure you've got the best of the best on your *insert music device here* for the ride home tomorrow. Crank it, drives alone sometimes are my favorite. I get to be greedy with the music. All my faves... All mine...
Author creighton0123 Posted February 17, 2013 Author Posted February 17, 2013 While everyone else is taking an emotionally fueled roller-coaster ride, you're riding on a bullet train I'm a planner. From day one I knew that this experience is just that: a life experience that I will grow from. Figure out what causes me anxiety and avoid or replace it with something better OR express it in an appropriate and non-damaging way. There are much worse things in life than a month or so of sporadic sadness or anxiety between romances. I now have a plan: Get him to move his stuff out. Should be done tomorrow. Massage on Tuesday. Get a roommate. Should be sorted by the weekend. Laser tag with friends and a birthday party in a week. Roommate moves in in two weeks. Vacation at a dear friends in three weeks. Apartment searching for June in four weeks. After that is done, some casual dating if I feel up to it.
Author creighton0123 Posted February 17, 2013 Author Posted February 17, 2013 Hey Creighton, I'm glad to hear that you're doing so well, sounds like you're having a great weekend anyway! Purple haired ladies have to stare, their eye sights not so good - thus the purple hair. No worries there. Make sure you've got the best of the best on your *insert music device here* for the ride home tomorrow. Crank it, drives alone sometimes are my favorite. I get to be greedy with the music. All my faves... All mine... I prefer catching up on npr on my way home. Keeps my mind more engaged :-) Have a few podcasts downloaded already.
Love Bytes Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Good for you, man. I went snowboarding for about 9 hours today, and I'm in a fantastic mood. It's all about keeping yourself occupied and having fun.
th90 Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 I'm a planner. From day one I knew that this experience is just that: a life experience that I will grow from. Figure out what causes me anxiety and avoid or replace it with something better OR express it in an appropriate and non-damaging way. There are much worse things in life than a month or so of sporadic sadness or anxiety between romances. I now have a plan: Get him to move his stuff out. Should be done tomorrow. Massage on Tuesday. Get a roommate. Should be sorted by the weekend. Laser tag with friends and a birthday party in a week. Roommate moves in in two weeks. Vacation at a dear friends in three weeks. Apartment searching for June in four weeks. After that is done, some casual dating if I feel up to it. Not only are you a planner, you're an optimist and realist too! I hope your spirits remain high all the way
Author creighton0123 Posted February 17, 2013 Author Posted February 17, 2013 Not only are you a planner, you're an optimist and realist too! I hope your spirits remain high all the way Oh... they won't remain high the whole way. That's not how humans work, right? Ebbs and flows. High, low, higher, low, higher, low, normal. Not going to delude myself and say I won't feel more sadness or anxiety over the breakup. I'm just going to continue to remind myself that it is something I can an most definitely will overcome sooner rather than later. I have, after all, a partner in life waiting somewhere and somewhen to meet me :-) I hope he isn't waiting too long. And I hope he's great in bed ;-)
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