budd98 Posted August 31, 2004 Posted August 31, 2004 I have been broken up with my ex now for 2 months and I have recently found out some news about her. We had dated for 3 years and I found out she had had sex with someone else while she was dating me and a bunch of other stuff as well. Anyways, what I would like to know is what you think the effect of me packing all of her stuff that she has ever written me, made for me, or pictures of us into a box and sending it back to her. I would also include a note stating "Here are all of your lies back!" I do not ever want to get back with this girl, but I do want to try and put her inot her place for what she has done. Does anyone think this will affect her? And if so, How?
veilofdarkness Posted August 31, 2004 Posted August 31, 2004 While what you want to do sounds good, you have to realize if you go to the trouble to do that, it will seem as if you care. Just blow her off, don't talk to her, forget her and that gets your message accross much better. If you act like you care, showing your hurt enough to take time out to try to figure out a way to hurt them , it gives them the satisfaction of knowing they got to you and you're just left feeling angry and hurt. Just my opinion.
EC Posted August 31, 2004 Posted August 31, 2004 I don't think you should do that. The only reason you want to do that is because your obviously still hurting and you want her to see those things and remember you and feel hurt. Well guess what her seeing all those things won't her her. They were lies like you said. She did a bunch of things behind your back and she doesn't even deserve you to go through all that trouble. I say just blow her off and never speak to her again.
Istandalone Posted August 31, 2004 Posted August 31, 2004 Hey Bud, I think that you might regret this in the future. When I broke up with an ex a few years ago, I had a ritualistic burning of all the things he had given me and everything that reminded me of him. All the letters, photos, gifts, etc. Now when I look back, I really regret it. Although it was painful at the time, those were memories I wish i would have kept. Also, it will probably affect you more than her. You'll be waiting for reaction from her, and she might not give it. That would be worse than anything in my opinion. Maybe you should just pack all that stuff up and stick it in the back of your closet. Then in a few years, you'll stumble on it, and you'll be glad you kept it. Trust me
sundrop Posted September 1, 2004 Posted September 1, 2004 I agree, don't do it (coming from a girl). Don't give her the satisfaction. She'll think she still as you wrapped. I just got out of a two year relationship and tonight thought about taking everything he ever gave me and putting it on his front step, but thought "no that will give him the satisfaction of knowing I am still thinking about him" and with as much as I am hurt, I will also regret giving those things away, cause deep down they do still mean something to me. All these things are a learning experience. But DO NOT give her the satisfaction.
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