londonlad Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Hi guys. I'll cut straight to it. There's a girl in my life who I want to have a closer relationship with but I'm not sure how to talk to her about it without seeming too intense or like I'm living in a romantic fantasy. We are friends at the moment, we tried dating in the past but it wasn't the right time for us but she left the door open. So this isn't your typical "boy wants girl who isn't attracted to him" thing. We've always had a spark and tbh I've got plenty of other options but I want this girl to be my one and only. However I think atm she is a bit unsure about us. She's not perfect but I'm besotted with her. She's unique, cute and is one of the very few girls I feel real and alive with. So what do you think ladies. What should I say and how should I say it?
acorn Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Haha say basically what you JUST said (minus the part about you having many other options) Tell her you like her and you want her to be your one and only. Tell her she is unique and beautiful, inside and out And since you've already dated, she won't think it's too intense! 1
venusishername Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 You need to use the fact that you have other options not to pump yourself, but to emphasize to her how much you like her. Frame it in a way where your message is that, it doesn't matter what other girls are out there, or what other opportunities you might have.....none of those girls even come close to comparing to her, and none of them could ever get as far into your heart as she is. Tell her you don't care who else is out there...the only girl who matters to you is her, and you can't sequester those feelings anymore. Grand romantic gestures: they've worked throughout the history of mankind for a reason. Couldn't have said it better myself. It's very romantic
ja123 Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Start dating her properly then say all that stuff. It's too intense, otherwise, IMO. P.S. female response
sweetkiwi Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 I always prefer a direct approach. I am a woman who appreciates honesty and the fact that you've already dated means she knows how she feels about you to some extent. Ask her out on more dates. Show your genuine interest. Compliment her on the things you like about her. You're already miles ahead of someone who is in the FZ. Do it up!!! And good luck!!
Author londonlad Posted February 18, 2013 Author Posted February 18, 2013 I always prefer a direct approach. I am a woman who appreciates honesty and the fact that you've already dated means she knows how she feels about you to some extent. Ask her out on more dates. Show your genuine interest. Compliment her on the things you like about her. You're already miles ahead of someone who is in the FZ. Do it up!!! And good luck!! Cheers, for the advice. Actually the girl I'm talking about is Kiwi . We've been aiming to go to a club together for a while, I think I'll take her for a quiet drink chat for a while, relax, say my thing calmly. Tell that she doesn't have to give me answer then and there, to think about if she needs to. And for that night we can still just go out and hang with each other with no expectation. Then go on to the club.
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