thewrongonee Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Hello all, I need help making a decision, its been bothering me for a while and i need to vent out. My ex broke up with me last month because we lost our spark in the relationship. I'll be honest, it was because of me, I was losing my attraction towards her and felt as if i was in a wrong relationship. At first i thought i was going to be fine with the break up, but little by little its hurting me more and more. I miss the little thing she used to do for me, texts, jokes, help me go through hard times. SO here is the problem, when we broke up she said we can still be friends, to which after a week i replied saying i have feelings for her and i cannot be friends, and been no contact since then. Should I break the no contact and reconcile or contact her and say i'm fine with being friends (1 week of NC). The reason why i dident want to be friends was, we were talking less and less everyday, but when we did talk... it felt as if we were 'normal' again, we would spend 2-3 hrs talking. I need this phase to be over with, any suggestions will help, thanks for reading!!
mammasita Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 Well, since she broke up with you, I don't think there is anything you can do but give her time and space. If it were the other way around, I could see you putting some work in to try to prove that you made a mistake. In this case though, she likely thought about breaking up for awhile before the words were spoken. You are, unfortunately, the dumpee. Are you sure that you truly want the relationship and her back or are you romanticizing things, feeling lonely and just missing the companionship?
Author thewrongonee Posted February 17, 2013 Author Posted February 17, 2013 I miss her period. I want to fix things, the things i messed up on, i made her feel bad at times, made her cry.. but managed to work it and get over it. The night we broke up, i was drunk and texted her some things that i felt were missing in our relationship. Shes a great girl, she even said she still cares about me, but I feel so angry at my self for treating her like the way i did, sometimes i hate my self for that. I just don't know what to do; be friends or try to work something out?
Author thewrongonee Posted February 17, 2013 Author Posted February 17, 2013 Well, since she broke up with you, I don't think there is anything you can do but give her time and space. If it were the other way around, I could see you putting some work in to try to prove that you made a mistake. In this case though, she likely thought about breaking up for awhile before the words were spoken. You are, unfortunately, the dumpee. Are you sure that you truly want the relationship and her back or are you romanticizing things, feeling lonely and just missing the companionship? I agree 100% I am giving her space, but i don't want to lose her at the same time. she changed me, made me think differently, i just don't want to lose a person like that in my life.
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