steve445 Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 My gf broke up with me 5 days ago and I told her I respect her wishes. She said she didn't feel the same about me anymore, that she still loves me, but didn't want to be in a relationship with anyone right now. She ended it because she felt that we weren't compatible and that she was having issues and stress with her mom being in and out of the hospital. I've been there for her and her mom and always supported her. I called her and spoke to her briefly and I asked her if there was someone else in the picture and she said no. She said she spend valentines day in the hospital with her mom. The reason why I ask if there's someone else is because she did this to me a few years ago and later found out she was working it out with her ex before I found out later she cheated on me with him. We had our good and bad times and I don't know why but I stuck with her. I must've really love her. Since the break up, she's been texting me minimally to say hi and I would respond, but that's about it. I miss her and I love her so much and feel sad about us breaking up. I don't know what to do to win her heart back. I told her how I felt the last time I saw her, I poured my heart to this girl and she just said she was sorry that she doesn't want to hurt me. I feel numb and lost. I had trust issues because I caught her in a lie last year, she was on her phone and she ask a guy out for a drink and when I asked her who she was talking to she lied and gave me a girls name. I stop talking to her for a month, she told me it was only a friend and that her and her friends hangout with this guy in groups. I was mostly upset that she lied. As you can see I had some trust issues. Other than that she was a amazing person, she was sweet and was like my best friend. We spoke everyday. Today I told her how much I miss her and she hasn't responded. I catch myself wanting to to call her, but I hold back. This is something thing she wants and I wish one day she can change her mind. I've been keeping myself busy in the meantime, but still think about her. Should I just cut contact with her and move on? Even if she contacts me again? Should I ignore her for now?
Coping Vortex Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 My gf broke up with me 5 days ago and I told her I respect her wishes. She said she didn't feel the same about me anymore, that she still loves me, but didn't want to be in a relationship with anyone right now. She ended it because she felt that we weren't compatible and that she was having issues and stress with her mom being in and out of the hospital. I've been there for her and her mom and always supported her. I called her and spoke to her briefly and I asked her if there was someone else in the picture and she said no. She said she spend valentines day in the hospital with her mom. The reason why I ask if there's someone else is because she did this to me a few years ago and later found out she was working it out with her ex before I found out later she cheated on me with him. We had our good and bad times and I don't know why but I stuck with her. I must've really love her. Since the break up, she's been texting me minimally to say hi and I would respond, but that's about it. I miss her and I love her so much and feel sad about us breaking up. I don't know what to do to win her heart back. I told her how I felt the last time I saw her, I poured my heart to this girl and she just said she was sorry that she doesn't want to hurt me. I feel numb and lost. I had trust issues because I caught her in a lie last year, she was on her phone and she ask a guy out for a drink and when I asked her who she was talking to she lied and gave me a girls name. I stop talking to her for a month, she told me it was only a friend and that her and her friends hangout with this guy in groups. I was mostly upset that she lied. As you can see I had some trust issues. Other than that she was a amazing person, she was sweet and was like my best friend. We spoke everyday. Today I told her how much I miss her and she hasn't responded. I catch myself wanting to to call her, but I hold back. This is something thing she wants and I wish one day she can change her mind. I've been keeping myself busy in the meantime, but still think about her. Should I just cut contact with her and move on? Even if she contacts me again? Should I ignore her for now? Normally I would say go get her. But sounds like you have been around the block with her a few times. You had your "try" and it didn't work. I never give this advice but in your case you do need to move on. She just can't let it all go. She just has a few remaining threads that keep her reaching back but they will soon fray and turn to dust. Trust me I have been there.
marklarsson Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Normally I would say go get her. But sounds like you have been around the block with her a few times. You had your "try" and it didn't work. I never give this advice but in your case you do need to move on. She just can't let it all go. She just has a few remaining threads that keep her reaching back but they will soon fray and turn to dust. Trust me I have been there. Yes I agree if you hadn't already tried once like vortex I would have said go for it but you had already been there done that. I say you let this one go. If she's truelly truelly serious about you she will have a serious conversation about you two and you will be the judge of if the two of you should take it forward. And if you do indeed give each other the space your decision will not be difficult
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