finesse Posted August 31, 2004 Posted August 31, 2004 My hus & I have been married for 15 years, 2 kids. We have been very close friends with another couple for 8 years. For the past 2 years I have suspected that my husband and our female friend have an attraction to each other. No affair, just flirty, attraction type of thing. It is more of a feeling, intuition thing that I have, seeing how they relate to each other, etc. I do not suspect they have had an affair at all but am more suspicious they are getting closer. They are always double kissing when we leave. I always kiss her husband hello-goodbye once. They always seem to double kiss when we leave. Mind you, we are very close to them, have gone through a lot with them over the years, they feel like family. I do not mind the hello-goodbye kisses at all. This past weekend as we were getting ready to leave, I held back in the bathroom and waiting until everyone had cleared. Our kids had gone to the car, her husband was upstairs and their kids had left the room as well, so it was just my husband and her alone waiting for me. I came out slowly so that they would not hear me and when I walked into the room, they were standing very close, I heard her sigh after what I thought was a lingering "goodbye" kiss. I kind of hurriedly rushed out, giving her a quick hug but my husband knew I was upset and came out after me. When we got home, we talked about it. I told him I really was feeling that there is something between them, did not like the fact they always double kiss, told him my suspicions for the last 2 years and things I had picked up on , felt he was attracted to her and has been, told him how much he hurt me, if it were me in that situation, it definitely would not be tolerated. He reassured me over and over that there has never been and there is nothing going on. He reassured me that I misinterpreted what was going on when I saw them before we left their house. I just have a gut feeling/suspicion that something could happen. We do everything together (my husband & me), do not go out alone hardly, he does not work late, he comes home for lunch every day. He reassures me how much he loves me, etc. etc. What should I do, am I being naive, should I let it go and just pay close attention? I don't want to ruin a special friendship especially if I am just being paranoid?
Pocky Posted August 31, 2004 Posted August 31, 2004 Don't spend time worrying about what "could" happen. You shared your concerns with your husband, he stated nothing has happened and nothing would happen and if you don't believe he's cheated on you then let it go. Imagine what a wreck we'd all be if we worried about our SO "might" do!
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