Chloe1980 Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 One week already that he stopped talking to me. Like that, no breakup, I was supposed to understand, right? We've been "dating" (dating: he wanted to have sex, but he sweetened his words so I could think it was more than that) for almost 2 months. I said to him I loved him (I know, Im so lonely and stupid), but things got cold, and he stopped being sweet and charming after that. I contacted on Wednesday saying I missed him, and that I hated me for writing him, that I knew I had to move on, and that please dont reply to me so i can move on (I told him this before, but he always contacted me instantly. This time's different, its all over). No one word. On the other hand, he's been very active on sites likes meetme, adult friend finder, plenty of fish, and other swinger, gay sites as well. He's been always been like this, and this was a main concern for me. He's a player, but he told me he was not and I believed him. I need to get over him but I find it too difficult, Im so alone and he was the only one for me. We were so alike in everything, I thought I was his perfect match, and he was for me. Im so sad, and need to realize who he was. Please some advice, im feeling dead inside right now, I need to go NC and stop searching online for him, tracking his movements, but its so difficult as its the only thing I have left of him. Truly sad.
Addison312 Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 I think once you are over this one, you'll look back and feel shocked you ever wanted him. Stay off those sites! It's not doing anything positive for you. He's obviously dating and moving on. Sorry you are going through this. One day you'll meet someone who deserves you. This guy does not.
radinna82 Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 I agree with Addison. It obvious he was just using you. There might have been a physical connection but no heart connection. Im sure there are a lot of guys who would be lucky to have you. It may be hard..Ive been there, but you can do better.
Author Chloe1980 Posted February 17, 2013 Author Posted February 17, 2013 thank you. your words reaffirm me I did the correct thing at blocking him yesterday. Im NC no, 24 hours, but feeling like crap. Im so lonely and I dont like my life, he was my escape, my dream, he was the hope that now has vanished, and here I am, so sad
Own Worst Enemy Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 i don't know you. but i don't believe for one second that your dream was for a great big wet flapping douchebag who tries to meet women online for s.ex because he can't form a real relationship. that's not a dream, it's a nightmare! let yourself grieve for a few weeks - and sadly it will take a few weeks, but every time it feels unbearable, just remember it ISN'T, you can do it - and then you will be able to come out on the other side and start to think about what you can change to love your life. your life was better before him, and it will be better after him. trust me!
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