SARose61 Posted August 31, 2004 Posted August 31, 2004 OK, ya'll here's my story. 9 years ago, I dated a guy for almost 2 years. The relationship was very strange. He never wanted to take it to a higher level, always cancelled out on me on holidays. Told me he lived with an elderly aunt, I would call him there but he was never there, she would give him my messages. A friend of mine who's brother is a deputy sheriff ran the guys plates for me and I got an address. Discovered he really lived with a woman and in fact had lived with her for many years. I met her and she told me he had cheated repeatedly on her but she loved him. He really used me, put me on an emotional roller coaster, til I finally got hold of my pride and said no more. Still it really burned me that even though I ended it, he still had his life in tact. 2 years after that, I met my husband and have been married since then. I search online databases from time to time and I know that this guy finally married the gal he was living with in 1999. Anyway, fast forward to today. 2 1/2 years ago I had a gastric bypass and I have lost 120 lbs. if there was anyone in my mind that I would want to say that I would just love to run into, when looking my best and just say Look at me now, he's the guy. Well dang if he didn't drive right past me yesterday and yep he did a double look. Unfortunately I wasn't exactly looking my best, just casual, but minus 120 lbs from the last time he saw me. I did my best to just keep my composure and tried not to even look his way. I think he was dropping his step daughter off for classes at our downtown campus. I could tell he was watching me through his side mirror. This may just become a regular run in if he has to drop her off regularly and that is my usual time to be waiting there. I wait for my hubby to pick me up at that spot in the evenings, so I may have to step up my appearance so he can get some real good looks at how far I have come. I dont want him to approach me and I dont want to speak to him. The look of surprise on his face was sweet justice. I feel like doing some cartwheels...hahaha. My question is why do I feel this way? Ok despite the fact that he was a total jerk, man we had some electric chemistry. woohoo...let me tell ya...and I still felt that yesterday when I saw him. I DONT want to feel that way. Should I make up an excuse to get my husband to pick me up somewhere else so that I dont have to run into this guy anymore. Or do I face this and be proud and use it as an excuse to make myself look and feel better which is what I feel I really want to do, but I', scared. Honestly yes I did lose 120 lbs, I've gotten lazy lately and dont exercise, I could stand to lose another 20/30 lbs. lately I dont really dress as nicely as I can and I dont put on makeup anymore. What do you think, am I setting myself up for trouble? Rose
aFighter Posted August 31, 2004 Posted August 31, 2004 Playing with fire. Yeah you want him to see what he lost etc & that's normal. Imagine your husband's reaction if you started 'dressing up' and putting on make up just to say go out for some groceries aka hoping to run into your ex so he can see how good you look. My advice is to live as you have been & ignore that this ex of yours is even there lest you spark a jelousy fight with your hubby... Hey, it *could* happen.
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