kyle77 Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 I had a little bit of a setback this week with my ex. We have been apart from one another for over a year now. But since she was my first love and I hers I think she is going to be one of the toughest girls to get over. This week I saw her walking with a guy hand in hand. It kind of turned my stomach upside down but since its been a while I didnt absolutely freak out or anything. To be honest I am not depressed about it, I just have been thinking about her more lately. My friend was talking to me last night and he asked me if I would ever get back with her if the opportunity presented itself. I told him as of right now no but if the opportunity did present itself maybe I would change my mind. My rationale for this is that she was my first. Everyone wants it to work out with their first right? I mean right now looking at us I dont really see how we would work. Maybe in time if we both changed but that still doesnt change the fact that I would have loved it to work out with her. Is this normal? My friend didnt really understand cause he has never really had a solid relationship like I have, but it made me wonder. Is that a normal thought? To think that ya maybe we arent right for one another but I wish we were because she was my first-love?
TaraMaiden Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Yes it's normal. But highly unlikely. Why? Because 'first loves' also tend to be 'young loves' and people mature, move on, develop, evolve, change and modify their tastes, wishes, outlook, plans and dreams. That's precisely what she's done. I highly doubt she would ever entertain the thought of taking what I suspect she would consider a backwards step.
Author kyle77 Posted February 16, 2013 Author Posted February 16, 2013 Ya see thats my dilemna too. I dont want to take a step backwards and get in a relationship like that again. I guess what Im saying is. I can live without her and I dont think we are right for one another. But I feel as if I am always going to entertain the idea of a new relationship with her. Not a relationship like we had but a different one with her now. I dont ever think I will be able to say that no matter what I wouldnt date her again. Maybe I just need to find someone else that is special for me for all of that to disappear but for now thats just how I feel.
na49 Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 I'm trying to get over my ex who was my first relationship/love. I wonder if I ever did find another girl who I was really into, would my ex even cross my mind? I have my doubts honestly. I miss my ex (or who I thought my ex was) but I wonder if I miss my ex as much as I just miss having a familiar intimate relationship? Sorry you had to see your ex with another guy. I haven't seen that yet, but I'd imagine if/when I do it will be like getting my heart ripped out of my chest, stepped on, being kicked to the curb and spit on. You seem like you're doing alright though, so stay strong!
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