mlcj69 Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 (edited) My ex broke up with me after meeting 2.5 years ago. We arent EXACTLY sure when we declared our relationship status. It really just happened. We have been broken up for a week so far. And it was long distance She says she doesn't know what she wants. We spoke on the phone and we came to an agreement that we aren't going to text anymore, but just talk on the phone if we need to or want to just to discuss how things are going and whats going on and stuff. She accepts that eventually we would just dwindle off and basically really not talk any more. Currently we are giving each other space to really see what its like without each other. Honestly......it sucks. We have spoke everyday since we first started talking. Her MAIN reason of breaking up with me is because things just got boring and wasnt really into me anymore BECAUASE of no intimacy. But she never discussed this with me :/ I expected that in LDR. A week before she broke up with me she told me she felt like we needed a break. I tried convincing her to try to make things work like having skype dates and being romantic through text and skype and just spice things up a bit. I tried and I tried but then she eventually broke it off. I really wasnt trying my best, and she wasnt communicating everything she felt. Part of the reason why I think we were so distant was because this past visit I visited her we could not get as close as we wanted (sex). We had no privacy. But the visit before last, she stayed here at her grandmas, we had much more privacy and thats when we REALLY got close (not sex, but just felt extremely close to each other and actually going out and stuff). We didnt have what we had when I visited her. We couldnt have sex because of her over protective father. We would but, her father, and I really dont want to be on the bad side of the family. Just two days after ending it, she told me she misses me. And the day after that she said "I was actually thinking about getting back together, but the way you have been acting, no". I was just really confused as to why this happened and I really freaked out and asking her so many questions :/ I really could not help it. She told me on the phone that a 99.9% chance that she wont be dating anyone for a while. Well.......this is where my main concern comes in. This boy likes her. A LOT. She obviously has some interest in him because she says hes a decent guy and fun to hang around and stuff. To me.....shes slowly letting me go and seeing if she really likes this guy or not and stringing me along. But she did not tell me that. She just told me she accepts that we would dwindle off eventually if nothing ever happens between us. I dont want anything to happen between them while she is trying to figure out what she wants. I really cant accept her being with someone else then realizing she made a mistake. She told me NOTHING would happen. I trust her, but I really dont trust the other guy. I'm pretty sure he would be the one to make the moves. To me she is using him as a "rebound", with no affection really. We agreed to be friends for now. Just talk how we talked when we first met. Not nearly as much though just to give her space. I want to tell her to come visit during her spring break but thats a month and a half away. I figured it would make her hopeful to re experience what we had last time we were down here and more. I want to show her we can make this work :/ Do you think we would ever have a chance? I would like to be hopeful, but then it's like im really let down once she says "I dont think it will work out". I'm really trying my best to get over and just accept the fact that she wont come back. What do you think? Edited February 16, 2013 by mlcj69
TaraMaiden Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 What I think is that you are posting very much the same material in the hope that miraculously, someone will answer "Yes! of course she will! Tuesday this week, she'll call you and you'll live happily ever after!" Because that's what you want to hear, and it's what you want to have happen. But it's not. Going. To. Happen. You've already been told, in numerous posts, that you are on a hiding to nothing. You're just repeating yourself. And it follows - so are we.
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