bede86 Posted August 31, 2004 Posted August 31, 2004 Theres a girl i like i am not sure if she feels the same way, ive known her as an aquaitance for a long time, i am going to my high school formal with her and i really have deap real feelings for her i am worried that she doesnt feel the same. I do not want to ask her if she has feelings for me etc because it might scare her off so i do not no what to do. im thinking either waiting for the formal talk to her allot then and see what happens or maybe ask her out before the formal to a movie or something i am really not sure what to do but this is killing me i have liked her for along time, i am talking to her on msn messenger and on the mobile but out conversations lack any mutual feelings for each other and there are incidents where the conversation has gone silent. I need some advice i do not no what to do and this girl is the one person i have always had feelings for i am confused and i do not no what to do.
uriel Posted August 31, 2004 Posted August 31, 2004 Well -- she said yes to the formal. That's a good sign. Ask her out for a pre-formal date. Don't confess any feelings just yet. If this is your first date, just go and have fun. Get to know each other better. Same for the formal. If she seems responsive, you might give her a kiss -- test the waters, so to speak. For now, though, avoid coming on too strong. Just enjoy being with her and let things develop naturally. -- uriel
bball2079 Posted September 1, 2004 Posted September 1, 2004 i hope this works out for u and i would agree on not coming out to strong at first.
blue17 Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 biggest piece of advice I can give.....forget about her. Don't think about her....don't fantacize about her, don't worry over her etc. Go meet, flirt with other girls, hang out with your buddies, do sports/hobbies.....anything but her. If she wants to talk to you...that's fine but keep it short and don't converse with her too much. When you are busy with other things, this girl won't seem like a big deal at all. You will be more relaxed, you won't be TRYING to make her like you, and you won't have to always THINK so much when you're around her. This is because you have other activities going on (and hopefully are talking with many other girls) and she won't seem as important...and you will act naturally like you would in any other walk of life. She will be more attracted to you if have other things going on, people to talk to...because you will seem like a more well-rounded and successful person. Also not giving her your full attention (some attention, but not all the time) will make her realize that you don't HAVE to be with her in order to be complete. You are putting her on your level....and you suddenly don't seem so easy to obtain. Words I live by - "People want what they cannot have."
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