TrueLoveSeeker Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 I know I am just complaining about my situation but I dont want to depress any of my "real" friends by talking to them about this. So that is why I come to post here and vent. This forum has been great for me since I got dumped by my ex girlfriend. It has been roughly a month and a half since we broke up and after a week of pleading my case for the relationship, I realized nothing I could do or say at that moment would change her mind. I accepted the fact that we were done. About three weeks later, I messaged her and asked her if she still loved me or had any feelings for me. She told me she did not have any feelings for me anymore. As hard as it was to hear, that is actually what I was hoping for. She was too nice during the breakup and after the break up where she even said that she would "rethink" her decision, it gave me hope. Although I loved the thought of her coming back to me, I knew I needed to move on and the "hope" that she gave me made it difficult to do that. It has been a few days since she told me she doesnt have feelings for me anymore and it has gotten worse. I do not talk to her or plan on talking to her ever again unless she has a massive change of heart. I dont expect it and wont plan on it. I have completely erased any physical memory I have of her and I deactivate all my social media crap. We were both each others first love and we were both young. We were best friends for 5 months first and had a loving relationship for 2 years after. What makes it harder to move on is that all of our friends were mutual friends because she had no friends at first and became friends with all my friends. Now just hanging out with my friends bring me pain. Im sorry for the long post but I just need to vent and write down my issues because for some reason, it makes me feel better to know that someone knows what I am going through. I dont believe my situation is any worse than a lot of yours but it sure is incredibly difficult. Cant wait for this No Contact thing to start benefiting me.
mcdo Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 More or less a carbon copy of my situation. The last time we met she said she has no feelings for me anymore. And that I had to give up all hope of ever getting back together. Harsh words but I'm glad she was honest. It's tough but this forum and other people/info on the web will tell you NC is the only way. I'm one solid week into absolute NC and I was doing fine at first. Yesterday I felt like a disaster. But I'm finding ways out of it. I'm working on trying to move from Ireland to the US to start a new life, which has been a lifelong dream of mine. Now is the chance to pursue the dreams that a serious relationship may have prevented.
d0620 Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 This site is very helpful. Come back as often as you feel the need to do so. It looks like I will be here for awhile. What I am trying to do is think about all the good things in my life and be thankful. Things could be worse. It doesn't make me feel better about the break up but it does help keep perspective of what life is really about and remember that a relationship doesn't define you. It's ok to talk to real friends, if they are your real friends they will help you to recover. Hang in there....
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