Do I have reason to be annoyed?

[Mel2011]

My ex broke up with me about 2 months ago. During the first month of the breakup I tried to contact him twice to ask him to talk to me about what happened. He seemed very disinterested so I came to accept that the break up was final (this is the 3rd time we have broken up in 2.5 years). He started sending me text messages in the second month of our breakup.. Things like "I have two of your shirts", "I make an effort to wave at you and you won't wave at me" etc.

 

We were texting one day and we started talking about our relationship and he basically said that he only wanted to be friends for the time being. I asked him the next day if he thought we would ever have a chance of reconciling, or if I should just move on. He said he thought I should try and find someone else as he wanted to work away and wasnt ready. In my mind this was the last time we would ever talk, as he wouldn't have told me to move on of he wasnt 100% serious about it.

 

2 weeks later he texts me and says how he wants to work things out, I told him it was too late. The next day he texts me confessing his love, how he is willing to do anything to make us work, again I say it is too late. The next day he calls me 6 times, of which I did not answer. He text me saying he knows it's not too late and how he just wants to talk to me. I told him I was only going to speak with him on the phone for 5 minutes. He calls, cries his eyes out, says that leaving me was the worst decision of his life, how he just wants to work out our problems because he knows he wants to be with me for life etc. We meet the next day and he says all the right things, you could see he was genuinely hurt and he was genuinely sorry he left.

 

About a week went by and I started coming around to the idea of working it out and getting back together. We text here and there, he initiates contact somedays, other days I initiate contact. I could feel him starting to pull away a little. I told him that if he wasn't sure that this was exactly what he wanted then I wanted him to take some time out to think about it. He text back saying "I know what I want". We were unable to see each other as he was working night shift, he starts work as I finish, he finishes work as I start.

 

We were getting along great and I was very hopeful all was going well. It was still in my mind that he was backing off a little. I text him one day and said exactly how I felt for him. His reply was "Thank you MY NAME, that means a lot to me". I told him that I needed to back off a little until we could meet each other.

 

Valentines Day came and went. Not one message from him. I didn't send him a message as I felt that him backing off was a huge RED FLAG.

 

Is it reasonable for me to be very disappointed that he couldn't send me one little message on V day? Is it unreasonable that I am very bummed out that he couldn't reach out and say something as simple as "I hope you have a good day".

 

I feel like ever since I have come around to the idea of working our issues out and getting back together, that he has backed off a lot and seems rather uninterested? Is he playing games? We were together 2.5 years and he has always told me that he sees me as his future wife etc.