his50unoACE Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Okay so when I was 15 I met the father of both of my kids, he was 16 when we met. So we were together 3.5 months before I got pregnant with my little girl, yes I admit we moved faster than we should have but I wouldn't change any of it for the world. So we have been together for 2 years and some months, so I am currently pregnant with our second child. I admit that when he broke up with me it crushed me and I was and still am devastated. It's like when that happened I realized how clingy I was and how much I depended on him. I was so used to everyone giving me what I want because I was the only girl. When I had my daughter I STOPPED getting what I want but her dad never told me I had to do anything!!! Yeah seeing that I am 17 and I am a mom you would think I would get off my a**, but I didn't. I preferred to be home with my baby girl 24/7 I am getting my GED. Anyways, that night he broke up with me I had a bad panic attack and I cried for 4 days straight the slightest thing about him made me cry. So I tell him how much I love him over and over again, so I DON'T want to lose the love of my life, my 50 uno ACE. So I know we will get back together this is the 2nd time we broke up like this but I broke up with him, we have had our ups and downs. So just 2 days ago those 2 years flashed before my eyes, and I knew it was time to get off my a**. So I now have a job interview at taco bell Tuesday at 6. I am lost I get to see him tomorrow, so we are going to talk and hopefully get back together...HELP COS IM STILL LOST im not sure if i should cry and be sad and depressed or smile and keep faith. (I don't NEED ANY RUDE COMMENTS SO KEEP IT TO YOUR SELFS cos i am a bitch when it comes to people trying to be ******* and they don't even know me)
Eggplant Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 his50unoAce, I am so sorry that your heart is broken. Please, I hope you have support from family and friends. You are not alone. Just give yourself time and space and take good care of yourself. Tomorrow is another day.
veggirl Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Wow. Well unfortunately the reality is basically no one stays with their boyfriend from when they were 15. children or not, your boyfriend has the luxury of being the dad, i.e. not the primary caregiver. What is the living situation here? At 18 he is going to want to experiment, see what else is out there. Sucks but it's reality. If you are looking to reconcile, be calm. Don't try to "prove" anything because that won't last. If you have ACTUALLY changed what you wanted to change then it will be evident. You shouldn't have to fake anything. Whatever you do, don't chase him. Have you thought beyond just your relationship with him? I mean, if you don't reconcile, are there steps in place so that you will receive child support etc?
Author his50unoACE Posted February 16, 2013 Author Posted February 16, 2013 Wow. Well unfortunately the reality is basically no one stays with their boyfriend from when they were 15. children or not, your boyfriend has the luxury of being the dad, i.e. not the primary caregiver. What is the living situation here? At 18 he is going to want to experiment, see what else is out there. Sucks but it's reality. If you are looking to reconcile, be calm. Don't try to "prove" anything because that won't last. If you have ACTUALLY changed what you wanted to change then it will be evident. You shouldn't have to fake anything. Whatever you do, don't chase him. Have you thought beyond just your relationship with him? I mean, if you don't reconcile, are there steps in place so that you will receive child support etc? i live with my mom and he lives with his dad. and im not going to give up what i worked so dang hard for...i mean its possible very possible to be with your high school sweet heart. At the end of the day we are going to end up back together...and im not going to put him on child support or any government help cos he does what he needs to for our daughter n me...but i appreciate the advice 1
veggirl Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Okay, well your best bet is to play it cool then. No chasing. No clingy, no needy. Act casual tomorrow. He KNOWS you want him back. Do not, do not continue to re-itterate that to him. It will turn him straight off. Let him see the cool, confident, improving you. Be calm and be mature. When you start getting emotional or feeling crazy, breathe and THINK about everything before you say it. (to be fair, my older sister IS married to her high school sweet heart with 2 kids, never been with anyone else so I do realize its possible!) 1
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