JohnDellano Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 So here's my story... Met a girl and she was really special... But I wanted sex and she would say she wanted to wait for a while but it had been 4 months of dating and I wanted sex , I couldn't see relationship progressing without it. So she broke up with me... 2 weeks later she wanted me back and I took her back but I was cold because that hurt me a lot. She broke up with me, told me I was completely ungrateful of her affection , that i only cared about sex and then went completely NC... she would only wish me happy birthday and merry Christmas but I wouldnt answer because I was still hurt. Then after 6 months of NC she sent me a Merry Xmas message again. I didnt reply. Then in January she wanted to talk to me, the texted me, apologized for anything that she could have done to hurt me (lol) and then she asked if we could be friends again. I said okay. 2 weeks passed, she asked me if I was okay and i said yes. She said that it wasnt impossible to be friends again if she was the only one to initiate a conversation, that I should do the same. I didnt want her to piss me off more than she was doing so I said "okay i will see ya".But i dont ever wanna talk to her again, I just said that because I wanted her to shut up. 3 weeks ago she messaged me again. My brother is really sick so she sent me this article on his sickness , about a guy who underwent a certain treatment and was completely healed. She said "That made me think of your brother... i hope he's okay". I said "thank you for asking", she said "no need to thank me, just wanted to see if everything is okay", i said it was, i said i was busy with friends and that i would talk to her later (again, only to make her shut up). She said "oh okay, take care, xoxo". Why did she send me all these friendly messages? What does she want? And now she's stopped talking, she didn't message anything else... What does it mean? Did she forget me for good? Does she still think about me? Why talk about my brother anyway? And why be quiet now?
lovelifexx Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 It's impossible to tell what she wants. It could be that she just wants to be friends, it could be that she wants to keep you on hte bac burner in case she doesn't find anyone better, it could be that she doesn't know what she wants so she is trying to figure it out, etc...can't really say.... The reason she stopped sending you messages is that she said to you that she doesn't want to be the only one that inititates contact. So, she wants to see if you will try to contact her. She already told you that. If you really don't want to contact her again, then tell her that instead of just agreeing with her "to get her to shutup". Tell her what you want. It's not fair. Even if you are hurt that she broke up. IT's obviously not going to work if she doesn't want to have sex and you do. If you don't want to talk to her anymore like you said, be clear with her about that.
aliceinthebox Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 (edited) So here's my story... Met a girl and she was really special... But I wanted sex and she would say she wanted to wait for a while but it had been 4 months of dating and I wanted sex , I couldn't see relationship progressing without it. So she broke up with me... 2 weeks later she wanted me back and I took her back but I was cold because that hurt me a lot. She broke up with me, told me I was completely ungrateful of her affection , that i only cared about sex and then went completely NC... she would only wish me happy birthday and merry Christmas but I wouldnt answer because I was still hurt. Then after 6 months of NC she sent me a Merry Xmas message again. I didnt reply. Then in January she wanted to talk to me, the texted me, apologized for anything that she could have done to hurt me (lol) and then she asked if we could be friends again. I said okay. 2 weeks passed, she asked me if I was okay and i said yes. She said that it wasnt impossible to be friends again if she was the only one to initiate a conversation, that I should do the same. I didnt want her to piss me off more than she was doing so I said "okay i will see ya".But i dont ever wanna talk to her again, I just said that because I wanted her to shut up. 3 weeks ago she messaged me again. My brother is really sick so she sent me this article on his sickness , about a guy who underwent a certain treatment and was completely healed. She said "That made me think of your brother... i hope he's okay". I said "thank you for asking", she said "no need to thank me, just wanted to see if everything is okay", i said it was, i said i was busy with friends and that i would talk to her later (again, only to make her shut up). She said "oh okay, take care, xoxo". Why did she send me all these friendly messages? What does she want? And now she's stopped talking, she didn't message anything else... What does it mean? Did she forget me for good? Does she still think about me? Why talk about my brother anyway? And why be quiet now? Oh man this could be my story lol except for the messages on her side. I dumped my boyfriend similarly (but not completely for the sex part), but he's the one that said he wanted to be friends and to fulfill my side as a "friend" I tried to contact him, but he did what you did and sounded like a flake and an ******* so I stopped messaging him. You think you are the victim because you were dumped... Did you ask why she was reluctant to have sex? What if she was sexually molested? If you love someone you will friggin wait when she is damn right ready. Edited February 16, 2013 by aliceinthebox
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