JohnDellano Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 So here's my story... Met a girl and she was really special... But I wanted sex and she would say she wanted to wait for a while but it had been 4 months of dating and I wanted sex , I couldn't see relationship progressing without it. So she broke up with me... 2 weeks later she wanted me back and I took her back but I was cold because that hurt me a lot. She broke up with me, told me I was completely ungrateful of her affection , that i only cared about sex and then went completely NC... she would only wish me happy birthday and merry Christmas but I wouldnt answer because I was still hurt. Then after 6 months of NC she sent me a Merry Xmas message again. I didnt reply. Then in January she wanted to talk to me, the texted me, apologized for anything that she could have done to hurt me (lol) and then she asked if we could be friends again. I said okay. 2 weeks passed, she asked me if I was okay and i said yes. She said that it wasnt impossible to be friends again if she was the only one to initiate a conversation, that I should do the same. I didnt want her to piss me off more than she was doing so I said "okay i will see ya".But i dont ever wanna talk to her again, I just said that because I wanted her to shut up. 3 weeks ago she messaged me again. My brother is really sick so she sent me this article on his sickness , about a guy who underwent a certain treatment and was completely healed. She said "That made me think of your brother... i hope he's okay". I said "thank you for asking", she said "no need to thank me, just wanted to see if everything is okay", i said it was, i said i was busy with friends and that i would talk to her later (again, only to make her shut up). She said "oh okay, take care, xoxo". Why did she send me all these friendly messages? What does she want? And now she's stopped talking, she didn't message anything else... What does it mean? Did she forget me for good? Does she still think about me? Why talk about my brother anyway? And why be quiet now?
GingerVixen Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Are you sick? She was just being friendly. She seems to be a nice girl. Why are you doing this to her? Why not be brave enough to tell her you just don't want to talk to her? And if you don't care about her why are you so pissed that she's not talking anymore? She's not stupid, she's just giving up. 1
eduardo23 Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 She wants to either be friends with you, get back together/see if theres potential to, or ease her guilt for no sexy time for 4 months. You gave her replies with the intention of "making her shut up" and said you'd message her later. Naturally a person would stop texting back. If you really want to find out if she wants you back... befriend her for a little bit, be nice, then straight up tell her you are still hurt, you don't want to be friends yet(or ever) and you only want a relationship (given the problems you don't like are fixed/being worked on). Also look into love languages, which I discovered from another person posting here. Thank you loveshackers. You and her may require different types of love language and feel unappreciated by each other. "The Five Love Languages" Explained
Sexy Teddy Bear Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 So here's my story... Met a girl and she was really special... But I wanted sex and she would say she wanted to wait for a while but it had been 4 months of dating and I wanted sex , I couldn't see relationship progressing without it. If you really thought she was special, you would have respected her wishes for not wanting to have sex. A relationship most certainly can progress without sex. And if the man waits until the woman is ready, it will make it that much more special.
Mack05 Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Firstly John I hope your brother gets better... BUT you are an idiot. You have a sensible, classy, genuine, special girl (in this generation are rarer than hens teeth) and you let go an amazing chance of longterm happiness go because you want to have sex. She can do so much better. She can find a guy who will respect her wishes. Who will not pressure her but instead understand and appreciate her. In my meantime why not bang your chest like a gorilla, drink loads of beer and hook up with 'average ho'. In a few years time you will sooooo regret this dude. Trust me on this. You want my advice. Sent her a message saying how sorry you are. You recognise to her just how immature you were and if you got another chance you would wait 5 years for her, if this is what she wanted. Tell her there is not a day that goes by that you don't regret your behaviour. It'd probably too late to be honest. The reason I would try? For most of us the special one's come around once maybe twice in a lifetime... 1
Chi townD Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 I agree with the others, dude. I think you screwed up and let a really good one go. I would rather have a girl make me wait until she's ready. Then, in my opinion, when it does happen it's because she knows it feels right. Plus, I would know that she doesn't give it up to just anybody. That I'm special to her. And I wouldn't have to worry about her cheating on me so much. I mean, could it still happen? Sure. But, it would be less likely if she puts such a high reguard on sex.
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