tvball11 Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 (edited) So My ex broke it off about a month or so ago (being together for about 5+ months). We again dated (like we were back together but not offical) right after that for a few weeks in January then she completely broke it off. A ton of excuses (G.I.G. syndrome I believe) saying she was overwhelmed with everything in her life (work (first year teaching), school, and her kids) and I had to take a back seat. Then it changed that she wanted to make sure we were right for each other and she didn't want to make another mistake like she did with her ex husband (7 yrs married...still not divorced). Then it turns out she wanted to date (again saying she wants to make sure I am the right one). Well you guessed it after she broke it off the second time she started dating someone from her work. I am pretty sure that she only knew him in passing but then something attracted her after we were back together for the second time. Anyways from what i hear and know it seems to be a rebound. We did move quick in our relationship but we dated and we really talked before becoming intimate. We intro kids later and family a little later. We both said we were comfortable and waited till 3 months to say we "Loved each other" and it was on all accounts a great relationship (family members liked each other. And yeah sex was great)! So my question to you guys out there is could I have possibly been a rebound too? She really only seriously dated me after her seperation from her ex husband (seperated for 1 1/2 yrs before we dated)? I put NC into place and did receive a few texts over the last couple of weeks. But very minimal (how are you? Hope you have a good week) but those have died off this week. Would love some advice on this. Like what do you think my chances are? If I was a rebound will she come back if her current rebound fails? Thanks! Edited February 16, 2013 by tvball11
salem mark Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 sorry to tell you this, probably not good dont contact her under any circumstances, let her come to you and make it not easy to get back into your life, if she contacts you wait a day to respond and keep it short, again do not initiate contact this is the only thing that works!! It worked for me
Author tvball11 Posted February 18, 2013 Author Posted February 18, 2013 Thanks Salem, Yeah she text me a couple of times but just general texts and typically i took a little while to respond but that has been over a week and I have not contacted her back (my thinking is she doesnt want to ruin her new relationship). I am going to not respond if she texts again and maybe she will call. Another part of the equation is that she is recently medicated (started right before we broke up) so that is why i thought I would wait till she was feeling better (she told me its not you its my illness type thing, she still loved me, cares for me BS). But when she started dating someone new right after I knew that was a BS excuse (medicated or not) and started no-contact. I do miss her and yeah the fact that i didnt recognize the red flags but me behind and I should have put in no contact before we broke up!
Author tvball11 Posted February 18, 2013 Author Posted February 18, 2013 Salem a question? What should I do with NC if she lives within 5 minutes of me and there is a chance that we will run into each other? I know it will kill me to see her with this guy!
thefooloftheyear Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 this is the only thing that works!! It worked for me Salem If you dont mind, elaborate on your story.. When you say "it worked for me", did it result in a reconciliation? Thanks TFOY
Author tvball11 Posted February 18, 2013 Author Posted February 18, 2013 Yeah Salem I am with TFOY please share your story please.
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