napy666 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 This one guy I've been dating on and off says he's a Virgin never has had sexual intercourse. But has done other sexual favors received blow jobs from girls, handjobs, fingered girls, etc. IF he's a Virgin as he says he is, should Virgins be scared to want to kiss, hold hands, or do anything? But when him and I first started dating I felt pressured because I had asked him one night "you want to kiss me don't you?" he said "yes" then I had felt the pressure on and then kissed him and everything from that point kept moving more quickly and lead to other things. Everything happened so fast it was insane. I asked him why are you rushing everything? He thought that since I'm experienced having had long serious relationships over the years that I wouldn't have minded doing these things right off the bat. But me no that's not the case. I got out of a 3 year relationship 2 years ago and I wanted to wait a long time before doing anything with another guy but now all of this stuff has happened and I just feel guilty and regret. I told him I want to take things slow now but he keeps pushing and rushing into things. I want to cut things off with him but my mom likes him and says "You got a friend why loose that?" I told her this guy is not a friend he is a guy I am dating thats it. If dating doesn't go well, he goes as well and he's cut off completely. I just don't know what to do right now.
ThaWholigan Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Not all male virgins are scared (I was not too anxious by the time I did the deed myself). Some of them are probably in a rush to get rid of the "monkey on their back" so to speak. It sounds like this guy is either trying his best to shed his virginity out of fear he will never get another chance - or he's lying and he's done this before. I suspect it's the former personally. It is not your fault if you feel pressured - something tells me there is some anxiety in his approach to you in terms of sex. So I would probably not be so quick to cut him off, but carefully explain to him what you just told us about how you wish to do things. Do you like this guy?
mitchell Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Did you give him a blow job? Did he go down on you? Were all of these things done before you felt like you were ready? If so, tell him you want to slow things down. If he doesn't respect your wishes, then tell him to get lost.
Author napy666 Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 No blow jobs or anything to me was done and I have told him lets take things slowly but yet he keeps rushing into things.
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