na49 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Ever think of blocking his number? This way you don't hear anything from him?
Author LostGirl11 Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 No. No, no, no. His absolute and total lack of respect for your time, space and heart is breathtakingly astonishing. HE was the one suggesting you guys do not stay in contact - and yet, here he is fishing, casting breadcrumbs, hinting and wanting attention, like some silly, petulant little 5-year-old!! Continue to Ignore. With every text he sends, he demonstrates himself to be weak and pathetic. Be strong, please: For goodness' sake, do not put his feelings and needs above yours! Selfish as it may seem, remember why you are doing this, for yourself.... It really is shocking isn't it. I like how he thinks that this break up hasn't affected me in the slightest and dropping my knickers for any man! I'm insulted to be honest. I was thinking of replying and saying something short and sweet like 'Well your gut feeling was wrong. please don't tell me if you had a Valentine. thanks. What if he wants me back? And I'm closing the door by not replying?
destroyed4sho Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Lost, I know EXACTLY how you feel. I wrote earlier this week how much of a fool I made of myself in front of my ex last weekend. After all the ignoring he did to me, this is what I got last night on Valentine's at 2:45am "Please don't respond. I'm sad and miserable. fyi " Wow!? Really!? I didn't and won't respond. Thank God I found this website, I got my strength to ignore ignore ignore back. No breadcrumbs, baby, keep going strong. You will know in your heart when they truly,if ever, want you back. He will have to beg me after the way I was treated. Good luck!! wow, this got me mad...how blatantly selfish...he deserves to be blocked right now. He is sort of blocking you by telling you not to respond...wth? He is telling you what to do now? wth? so he can send you textes but you cant???
Author LostGirl11 Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 No. No, no, no. His absolute and total lack of respect for your time, space and heart is breathtakingly astonishing. HE was the one suggesting you guys do not stay in contact - and yet, here he is fishing, casting breadcrumbs, hinting and wanting attention, like some silly, petulant little 5-year-old!! Continue to Ignore. With every text he sends, he demonstrates himself to be weak and pathetic. Be strong, please: For goodness' sake, do not put his feelings and needs above yours! Selfish as it may seem, remember why you are doing this, for yourself.... It really is shocking isn't it. I like how he thinks that this break up hasn't affected me in the slightest and dropping my knickers for any man! I'm insulted to be honest. I was thinking of replying and saying something short and sweet like 'Well your gut feeling was wrong. please don't tell me if you had a Valentine. thanks. What if he wants me back? And I'm closing the door by not replying?
destroyed4sho Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 It really is shocking isn't it. I like how he thinks that this break up hasn't affected me in the slightest and dropping my knickers for any man! I'm insulted to be honest. I was thinking of replying and saying something short and sweet like 'Well your gut feeling was wrong. please don't tell me if you had a Valentine. thanks. What if he wants me back? And I'm closing the door by not replying? DONT give him that kind of information so he can sleep better at night knowing you are not with anyone and that you would be hurt if he had a valentine. I think this is exactly the information he is fishing for. No, he doesnt want you back. He just wants an ego boost knowing you still care about him. If he wanted you back, he would of expressed regret and implied he wants to reconcile.
geegirl Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 What if he wants me back? And I'm closing the door by not replying? Who cares if he wants you back? If this the way he's doing it, then he's not worth it. He ignores you, breaks up with you, then wants to be friends, then totally disrespects your need to heal and keeps pushing you, then tell you it's best not to contact, then goes on a dating site, then comes back to get his ego stroke and you are asking what if he wants you back? This type of foolishness? Has zero empathy for your feelings. Told you not to come over even knowing the fact he won't see you for two months then blamed it on you for behaving badly and that is why he didn't want you there. Once in a fight told you get to get f***ed. Are you serious? What are you wanting to go back to? This BS? Because as soon as you get back, you'll be right back here crying about the same old thing. Nothing has changed. He is still the same person. You are still the same person. You'll both be bringing the same mess and having the same messy long distance relationship. He's contacting you because he's manipulative. His ego can't stand the fact that once you were groveling and now you aren't. It's a game. If someone wants you back, at least expect more for yourself in terms of them fighting for you. 1
destroyed4sho Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Yes, that could have been the reason. Either way, it's selfish. I'm pretty suprised that he even knew it was Valentines day to be honest. I bet there were loads of people expecting a text from their ex yesterday. I didn't want one nor was I expecting one. Count yourself lucky if you didn't get a text! Yep, i got one yesterday. It made me angry at first, then I felt good, now I feel empty and depressed. Not fun.
Author LostGirl11 Posted February 16, 2013 Author Posted February 16, 2013 Who cares if he wants you back? If this the way he's doing it, then he's not worth it. He ignores you, breaks up with you, then wants to be friends, then totally disrespects your need to heal and keeps pushing you, then tell you it's best not to contact, then goes on a dating site, then comes back to get his ego stroke and you are asking what if he wants you back? This type of foolishness? Has zero empathy for your feelings. Told you not to come over even knowing the fact he won't see you for two months then blamed it on you for behaving badly and that is why he didn't want you there. Once in a fight told you get to get f***ed. Are you serious? What are you wanting to go back to? This BS? Because as soon as you get back, you'll be right back here crying about the same old thing. Nothing has changed. He is still the same person. You are still the same person. You'll both be bringing the same mess and having the same messy long distance relationship. He's contacting you because he's manipulative. His ego can't stand the fact that once you were groveling and now you aren't. It's a game. If someone wants you back, at least expect more for yourself in terms of them fighting for you. This is mental. He is mental. He wishes me well and hopes that I find love and to stop contact, goes on dating website, then texts me pointless spiteful ****. I'm pretty mad actually. So you don't think I should send that text then? Just to protect myself then leave it at that, no back and forthing. If he wants me back then he will have to say so.
TaraMaiden Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 What if he wants me back? If he wants you back, I'm sure he has enough braincells to rub together to formulate a better strategy than this. Or maybe not. Would you want to go back to someone so inconsiderate, disrespectful and manipulative? You would....? Oh please, say it ain't so - !! And I'm closing the door by not replying? Too damn right - and good thing too! For goodness' sake, listen to yourself!! You do not want to keep the door open to this kind of communication! Please, you have to stop this incessant and utterly pointless pondering. Take it as read: You ARE a priority when it comes to giving him attention, validation and boosting his Ego. You are most certainly NOT a priority, when it comes to seriously addressing the possibility of a reconciliation. He's not angling for that, doesn't want that, and just wants you to stroke his puny male ego.... The next time he texts, reply, instantly, with one of the following: either: Your message could not be delivered because the recipient has blocked this number Or, more 'straight-to-the-point': *your number* Text blocker activated. 1
Author LostGirl11 Posted February 16, 2013 Author Posted February 16, 2013 If he wants you back, I'm sure he has enough braincells to rub together to formulate a better strategy than this. Or maybe not. Would you want to go back to someone so inconsiderate, disrespectful and manipulative? You would....? Oh please, say it ain't so - !! Too damn right - and good thing too! For goodness' sake, listen to yourself!! You do not want to keep the door open to this kind of communication! Please, you have to stop this incessant and utterly pointless pondering. Take it as read: You ARE a priority when it comes to giving him attention, validation and boosting his Ego. You are most certainly NOT a priority, when it comes to seriously addressing the possibility of a reconciliation. He's not angling for that, doesn't want that, and just wants you to stroke his puny male ego.... The next time he texts, reply, instantly, with one of the following: either: Your message could not be delivered because the recipient has blocked this number Or, more 'straight-to-the-point': *your number* Text blocker activated. 'You ARE a priority when it comes to giving him attention, validation and boosting his Ego' This pretty much sums it up. I'm such a tool. Mum always said I special!
geegirl Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 So you don't think I should send that text then? Just to protect myself then leave it at that, no back and forthing. If he wants me back then he will have to say so. If you text, you will go back and forth. If you want to protect yourself, block his number or change yours. You want to respond to assure him you were alone on V day, just so he knows the door is open. Stop. 2
Author LostGirl11 Posted February 16, 2013 Author Posted February 16, 2013 Well I didn't respond. He text me again, saying 'Please just tell me you were with last night' Then another one saying 'I don't think I'll ever fully get over you if that means anything. I still find myself referring to you as my girlfriend without thinking, then I have to correct myself' Didn't reply to these either. I don't really feel anything to be honest, which is suprising. I just thought 'You ended it with me, dont you dare try to make me feel guilty!'
TaraMaiden Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Yeah, he's just getting ridiculous now. I personally would send the text-blocker message myself, if only to just shut him up!
Author LostGirl11 Posted February 16, 2013 Author Posted February 16, 2013 Yeah, he's just getting ridiculous now. I personally would send the text-blocker message myself, if only to just shut him up! I don't know what his game is. Blocking him seems pretty extreme, and I just can't be arsed to do it actually, lol. It hasn't set me back or anything. He won't carry on, the man has too much pride.
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