Armymanis Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 I know I'm rotten for thinking this but should I cheat on my girlfriend? So here's the story: I don't mind if my girlfriend hands out with friends or family cuz I'm not the controlling type, but both my girlfriend and I got off work late last night and I asked her if she wanted to do something and she said she met up with friends and is going to the movie die hard. My girlfriend usually always tells the truth and hangs out with me pretty much 24/7. But the fact that she didn't want to spend valentines day with me and go out with friends to the movies pisses me off to no end. She called me after the movie like she usually does when she's driving home and told me all the details even when I didn't ask. It makes me really upset that she would rather hangout with her friends on v-day then hangout with me. We had planned to do our v-day this Sunday because we would have more time but still she should have said no to her friends and went out with me instead if she is not tired. I am not trying to be controlling at all, but I've never met her friends and we never go to movies at ten o clock because she always says she's tired and would rather go with me when she's wide awake. So should I trust her that she didn't meet up with some random guy or cheat on her and be unfaithful? she said that she would never do that and meetup with some random guy, but the way she changes her mind so often and can never say no to people is frustrating as hell. She puts me second and her family and friends first.
clia Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Is this the same girlfriend who is training you, makes you earn privileges, and takes away your privileges when you are "bad"? I thought you had already "earned" Valentine's Day and the day before and the day after? (At least according to your previous thread.) Did she take it away from you for some reason? Have you "earned" sex with her yet? Forget cheating; I think you should break up with her and find a girlfriend who doesn't have so many mental issues. 3
Keenly Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 I'm not the controlling type, but both my girlfriend and I got off work late last night and I asked her if she wanted to do something and she said she met up with friends and is going to the movie die hard. My girlfriend usually always tells the truth and hangs out with me pretty much 24/7. But the fact that she didn't want to spend valentines day with me and go out with friends to the movies pisses me off to no end. She called me after the movie like she usually does when she's driving home and told me all the details even when I didn't ask. It makes me really upset that she would rather hangout with her friends on v-day then hangout with me. We had planned to do our v-day this Sunday because we would have more time but still she should have said no to her friends and went out with me instead if she is not tired. I am not trying to be controlling at all, but I've never met her friends and we never go to movies at ten o clock because she always says she's tired and would rather go with me when she's wide awake. So should I trust her that she didn't meet up with some random guy or cheat on her and be unfaithful? she said that she would never do that and meetup with some random guy, but the way she changes her mind so often and can never say no to people is frustrating as hell. She puts me second and her family and friends first. Do you want to read that again? 5
carhill Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 She puts me second and her family and friends first. If you feel like that, and it's counter-productive to healthy feelings in a relationship, IMO it's healthier to communicate that and, as appropriate, resolve it or end the relationship. Be 'faithful' to yourself. You own your life and are responsible for how you conduct it. 2
amaysngrace Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Don't cheat. Break up with her. Take the high road. 3
Ladybugz Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 if you have to ask this or stay and be like that, break up and do you 2
pteromom Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 No, don't cheat. When you cheat, you are cheating yourself. You should always be the person you want to be, and you don't want to be a cheater...right? You need to decide whether this relationship really meets your needs though. Her desire to spend Valentine's Day with her friends instead of you could indicate a difference in values. Or it could indicate a desire to control and manipulate YOU. Or it could indicate that she doesn't feel as strongly about you as you feel about her. Or she could just think Valentine's Day is stupid. It's up to you to use everything else you know about her to decide if this is a big enough deal to break up with her or not. But definitely don't cheat. LEAVE, but don't cheat. 3
eduardo23 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 How about not being a jerk and choosing between break up or fixing the relationship? 2
dreamingoftigers Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 If this is how you handle very tiny relationship issues like "Valentine's" I suggest you get yourself into reading about relationships and coping skills. Because if you draw a straight line between that and cheating (for a reason I cannot fathom) your coping skills are the shi*s and will kill and degrade every potential relationship you have. Cheating is not healthy and solves nothing except for how to make yourself and your partner feel like shi*. Seriously. Read about conflicts, relationships, boundaries and how to treat people with respect. No sarc. 1
Sanctionne Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 I can see why you would be hurt by your gf spending V day w someone other than you. However, you did make plans for Sunday. So in the meantime do you expect her just to sit around and do nothing? I think her telling you the details was her making convo w you and nothing more. Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong. But I do know that two wrongs don't make a right and if you feel the need to cheat, then take that as a sign to end the relationship. Because if she did cheat on you, cheating on her won't fix anything and you will have to carry the guilt of cheating on someone around for the rest of your life. You don't hurt the ones you love even if they'he hurt you. Best of luck to you. 1
TaraMaiden Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Is this the same girlfriend who is training you, makes you earn privileges, and takes away your privileges when you are "bad"? I thought you had already "earned" Valentine's Day and the day before and the day after? (At least according to your previous thread.) Did she take it away from you for some reason? Have you "earned" sex with her yet? Forget cheating; I think you should break up with her and find a girlfriend who doesn't have so many mental issues. No!! Cheat! CHEAT!! Definitely, absolutely!! Yay, cheating!! This is one damn good relationship you should absolutely definitely cheat in!! How much more screwed up could it actually ever get - ?!
dreamingoftigers Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 No!! Cheat! CHEAT!! Definitely, absolutely!! Yay, cheating!! This is one damn good relationship you should absolutely definitely cheat in!! How much more screwed up could it actually ever get - ?! How long do you think he'll lose privileges for?
Author Armymanis Posted February 16, 2013 Author Posted February 16, 2013 So I'm not going to cheat on her because I do love her and I'm gonna just true her that she doesn't do anything stupid. I need to be a man when it comes to relationships and not think stupid stuff. Like someone replied I don't want to be the one who has to live with the fact that I cheated on someone who I loved. I choose them for a reason. Thanks people
TaraMaiden Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 So I'm not going to cheat on her because I do love her and I'm gonna just true her that she doesn't do anything stupid. I need to be a man when it comes to relationships and not think stupid stuff. Like someone replied I don't want to be the one who has to live with the fact that I cheated on someone who I loved. I choose them for a reason. Thanks people Damn. Don't you ever do what you're told?
somedude81 Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 It's retarded how people like this can get relationships.
ja123 Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 You're a TROLL, OP. I just read this. It's so laced with bdsm lingo, but you're playing innocent and coy to bait people to respond. Knock it off, and get a life.
SmileFace Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 It's retarded how people like this can get relationships. Yes but in a way it is a good thing. We have less chance of picking someone who is already in a relationship. I think it is a winwin lol
somedude81 Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Yes but in a way it is a good thing. We have less chance of picking someone who is already in a relationship. I think it is a winwin lol Yeah, but he was looking for somebody to cheat with. So he wanted to screw over two women. Guys like him should be put on a "do not touch" list. 1
Lonely Ronin Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Yeah, but he was looking for somebody to cheat with. So he wanted to screw over two women. Guys like him should be put on a "do not touch" list. Your'e nicer than me, I'd go with put down. 1
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