cdt76 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 My story started 8 years ago. That's when everything in my life was destroyed. I had reached my career goal and had finally made it. I was married and had two kids and was living a life most here dream of. Everything changed that October 2nd. Everything. I had to quit my job, move, lose $100,000 in the process of the move and shortly thereafter a depressing reality set in. I was no longer the man I thought I was. I was with a woman who wasnt in love with me and I was unemployed. Divorce came and went and I was able to restart a career and in the mean time rebuild who I thought I wanted to be. I met a woman and fell in love. She broke me by cheating with one of my co workers. Three years later the ex wife tells me she is moving out of state and taking the kids. Rage returned and I spent $10,000 fighting her in court for custody of the kids. Of course I lost because she is a good mom and I'm a good dad but deference always goes to the woman. I once again had to uproot myself And take a job in Kansas City. Losing a very cool and hard fought job and accepting a lateral transfer but to a desk. Met another girl last may and buy she lived in St. Louis where I had just moved from. I commuted and saw her every weekend and did everything I could to be the perfect guy. I wanted her to move in with me but she balked. She she balked she also walked! Leaving me to wonder what the hell I've bed doing for the last 8 mo the. No tears were shed. The anger is there but not as sharp as years ago. A dullness set in. Today my kids fly in to see me for a long weekend. As I pulled into the parking garage at the Airport, the pilot sent me a picture of my kids in the cockpit chairs steering the grounded plain. I lost it. The loneliness, missing out on every activity of my kids childhood, being spurned in love for the majority of my Adult life just over powered me. Maybe I'm depressed. Maybe I'm just riding that emotional roller coaster. But today I asked god to take the pain and the anger and the hate. Take it from me so I can forgive these peoe who have hurt me. I've held it for so long. I just don't know what will be left if me without the rage to fuel me everyday. What fuels people who are empty inside? I apologize for the long winded post. I needed to get this out today so that when the kids come through the gate, I won't break down in front of them. My time with the once a month is the only time I'm fulfilled.
Soxfaninfl Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 (edited) That's ****ed up! A judge aloud her to leave the state with your kids??? I got that included in my divorce decree. We share custody, so neither of us can move. I had to fight for 50/50 visitation though. My ex wanted to screw me and wanted 80/20. I made sure my lawyer inlcluded that in our divorcee agreement that she could not move. I lost over 100k invested in a house and I heard the same words from my ex "I don't love you anymore". I spent over 7k in my divorce, so your not alone. I've dated since my divorce, but I've had no luck finding a good realtionship. Why the hell did she move anyway? Edited February 15, 2013 by Soxfaninfl
Author cdt76 Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 She got married between the first and second hearing. He got a job at Ohio state doing research. He is a class A bastard.
Soxfaninfl Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 She got married between the first and second hearing. He got a job at Ohio state doing research. He is a class A bastard. If he's a class a bastard the marriage won't last. Karma is a bitch! My ex left me for a guy that is 15 years older than me and looks like captain kangaroo. They always think the grass is always greener until they find out the hard way.
Author cdt76 Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 I don't care about my ex wife at all. Taking the kids away was low but I couldn't change it. I tried but the system sucks. Men always get screwed when it comes to custody.
Soxfaninfl Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 I don't care about my ex wife at all. Taking the kids away was low but I couldn't change it. I tried but the system sucks. Men always get screwed when it comes to custody. The law is different here in Florida I guess. They are pro 50/50 if both parents are good parents. My ex gave up becuase she didnt want to spend anymore money on the divorce. What your ex did is low. It's sad that a lot of women do this this to good fathers. I know a couple that got screws like you. I'm just grateful that I got 50/50.
Author cdt76 Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 Missouri is 50/50 as well but if the courts let them go, what am I supposed to do? Now I pay a crap load of money for weekend visits.
Soxfaninfl Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 It basically sounds like you couldn't get it worked into your divorce before she moved, and she already moved after your divorce was final. It is low what she did. Also, the judge shouldn't have aloud it to be honest. The only solution would be for you to move so you have to spend less which sucks.
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