Felicity89 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 (edited) I'm pretty confused and annoyed right now. So, a week ago a guy from the dating site messaged me and told me he's liked all the things I put on my profile. We kind of started talking since. We talked in the morning, in the afternoon and in the evening. We switched numbers and have called each other a few couple of times. We did videocalling in Skype and have talked so much about life. Our life story seemed to click and he was constantly saying he's found the woman he's been praying for in me. I know it was too early for him to say those things but I felt his sincerity while saying all those. He said he's been on the site for a while but is willing to take it down and pack it up for me if I would do the same. He wanted to just talk to me and only me and that he's the kind of guy that gives his attention to only one woman once he's interested. I felt he was being honest because he's spent almost the whole week talking to me and he was showing me everything he was doing all the time through videocall. He cancelled his subscription and pulled his profile soon after but I kept mine up. I was thinking of giving it a few more talks and more time before I do that. Yesterday, he called me and asked me if I've closed my profile because he doesn't like other guys looking at my photos and reading my profile that for him was created intelligently and good read. I told him I didn't. Then a few hours after that he called me again and told me that I sound really difficult and that he's confused about me. That he was dreaming when he thought I was the one for him. I was like "WOW! We barely even talked and we haven't even met. Why are you saying all these? You sound controlling and I don't like being controlled and it's creepy for someone who hardly know me to tell me what to do." He hung up. Then today this morning, he called and greeted me Happy V-Day like as if nothing happened last night so we went on and start out fresh. Then tonight, I tried to Skype but he didn't answer it, he just sent me a message telling me he just wanted to be friends and keep it that way. He even said he won't say anything more that he will regret and so he will just say bye and then he asked me to just go. So I was like WTF??? So I messaged him back telling him, what's with the quick change and I told him I have enough friends and I don't think I need more. And that if he doesn't want to regret saying things then why the hell he was saying all these sweetness blah blah in the past couple of days and why he's saying one thing now and then another thing the next. I said No real man would do that. Then he replied to me saying I was insulting him and just deleted me off of his contacts. I wanted to give him a shot and I even planned on deleting my profile soon so I can just focus on him. But why did he suddenly do this to me? Am I missing something here? People please, shed me some light Edited February 15, 2013 by Felicity89
MidwestUSA Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 You wasted entirely too much time chatting. How can you possibly have all this going on with someone you've never met? Sadly, there are people out there, hiding behind a keyboard, "honing their skills", or just playing games. Call it an experience and move on. Good luck!
Author Felicity89 Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 (edited) You wasted entirely too much time chatting. How can you possibly have all this going on with someone you've never met? Sadly, there are people out there, hiding behind a keyboard, "honing their skills", or just playing games. Call it an experience and move on. Good luck! Maybe too much time chatting yeah but that's coz I was also interested in him and that's the only way we could connect for now. I just don't really understand how can a man make himself sound so serious about everything then blam. And based on the conversations that I've shared, did I ever sound rude? And then now he messaged me and told me something like "I'm no longer interested. Bye!" OMG! That hurt me, really. First time this happened to me. Edited February 15, 2013 by Felicity89
mammasita Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 I know it sucks....but you CLEARLY dodged a bullet. He sounds emotionally unavailable......blowing extremely hot and then turning cold. 1
LoverOfDance Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 He pulled down his profile for u and u didn't do the same 4 him. It's really simple. Guys are more emotional than u think and VERY sensitive too(speaking from experience). They also never 4get so even if he acts like everything is all right when an issue hasn't even been resolved yet, he's pretending. I think he REALLY likes u hence his irrational reaction to u not pulling down ur profile. He's not controlling, he's just emotional, very emotional. It's up to u to decide whether or not u have the strength to deal with that. 1
CarrieT Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 OMG! That hurt me, really. First time this happened to me. I was on OLD for years and I am sorry you are hurt by this, but you started to get emotionally invested in someone you never actually met. This is one of those lessons you learn about OLD; take EVERY contact with a grain of salt until you have physically met several times and gotten to know well. OLD can work if you use the philosophy that it is a constant crap-shoot; don't invest too much of yourself or get your hopes up too high with potentials until they present themselves as real and honest human beings. And don't have sex too early! 3
animalover Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 He pulled down his profile for u and u didn't do the same 4 him. It's really simple. Guys are more emotional than u think and VERY sensitive too(speaking from experience). They also never 4get so even if he acts like everything is all right when an issue hasn't even been resolved yet, he's pretending. I think he REALLY likes u hence his irrational reaction to u not pulling down ur profile. He's not controlling, he's just emotional, very emotional. It's up to u to decide whether or not u have the strength to deal with that. Totally agree with this.... He felt he was far more invested than you were ( he had asked you to be exclusive (online exclusive) and you didn't do it!)
outsidethebox Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 You may or may not have been clear in your response when he suggested both pulling your profiles, but it sounded clear to me. You said not yet, I need to get to know you better, which is the right answer. Also, if you get to that point with another guy, just suspend profile, not delete. Just consider this a very early fairly painless insight into this control freak. You're right, you don't need friends like him.
Joaquin Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 He's either a weirdo or needed an out, preferring to put it on you. You guys hadnt even met. I wouldn't over think it.
ChessPieceFace Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Sounds like he's a schizo. Lonely guy grasping at straws that aren't there yet, with no concept of normal and healthy boundaries. Be happy you didn't meet him IRL. 1
RebelWithoutACause Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 He doesn't sound emotionally needy, he sounds right down crazy. What sane person expects commitment and exclusivity after 5 days of skyping? You are very lucky to have found this out so early. 2
e40 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 How can someone be exclusive before meeting? He's crazy and you dodged a bullet. 1
Author Felicity89 Posted February 16, 2013 Author Posted February 16, 2013 I got woken up by a phone call from him but I didn't answer. He just left me a voice message. He told me he's an idiot to let me go and he's asking for forgiveness for the way he acted yesterday. Yes clearly, he's down right crazy! Thank you guys! I feel better now.
sid3 Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Get some popcorn and enjoy the show..... Yeah he sounds crazy.
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