aed Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 I see allot of threads by the dumpee's. But is there a difference between getting dumped or some one broke up with you? What is the difference between the two?
Pyro Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Sounds the exact same to me. Getting dumped= someone breaking up with you. Different choice of words is all.
NoLeafClover Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Is English your first language? What's the difference between pop and soda
mammasita Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 no difference. Both cases yeild the same result = no more relationship.
Author aed Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 (edited) ofcourse I had someone break up with me in the past, but I never felt I was dumped by her. so after reading some threads and I see allot of people feeling they got dumped.... so that's why I asked. So to me it didn't sound the same.... Edited February 15, 2013 by aed
KatZee Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 It means the exact same thing. There is no difference. Being "broken up with" just sounds nicer than, "I was dumped." If she ended it with you, you in fact, were dumped.
stevie_23 Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Yeah, technically it's the same thing, but to say you were "dumped" sounds more disrespectful, shocking, sudden, undignified. It conveys that they did something TO you, like they literally threw you away like a piece of trash. If ever I use the term "dumped" when describing my own experience, I feel like it's either used only as a kind of casual way of speaking or if I'm feeling angry about HOW an ex broke up with me, because the way the term "dumped" sounds conveys the unpleasant things he made you feel when he "dumped" you. To use the term "broke up with" is still the ex doing something but it's more that he's done it WITH you, not directly TO you, as you're saying "he broke up WITH me". It's a more reciprocal, two-ways, sort of thing. He broke the string / connection that was the relationship more than he did anything specific to YOU. Though for me, I prefer the term "ended the relationship" above broke up or dumped. It makes it more about the relationship and slightly more objective (if that's even possible with such an emotional, personal and intimate subject) and less directly hurtful. 1
TaraMaiden Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 I personally see 'broken up' as a mutual agreement, and 'dumped' as being a shock out-of-the-blue' thing.... But it doesn't always follow.....
stevie_23 Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Yeah, the term "broken up" does sound more mutual. As I said, it's more reciprocal, but I didn't mean that in terms of always being mutual. I was broken up with by my ex and it was NOT mutual, however it was reciprocal in my mind because I was involved. I see it wasn't all just HIM "dumping" me because of no reason. A true "dumping" to me would be someone who either texts "It's over" and then goes complete NC without any explanation whatsoever. Whereas "breaking up" is more like there was at least SOME sort of discussion or explanation between the two people involved at some stage in the process. 1
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