MyPoutine Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Add your own. Mine #1 rule for the ladies is Don't put out* until you've been dating the same guy consistently for at least 3 months. If he thinks waiting that long is "too long" then he probably doesn't have serious intentions therefore only engage if you simply want a casual hook-up (in which case don't complain if he pumps and leaves right after) * in this case "put out" refers to anything of a sexual nature (intercourse, hand job, blow job etc).
Els Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 I don't understand how 'rules' can be possible for something that involves the interaction of two humans who are fundamentally different from each other and from the rest of us. Millions of different possibilities there. Unless you mean those 'rules' are just what you personally do, in which case I generally agree with yours. It's really a matter of compatibility though. I'm sure there are great guys who want a handjob before several months have elapsed. The dudes just aren't compatible with me. Culture matters a lot, too.
eduardo23 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Add your own. Mine #1 rule for the ladies is Don't put out* until you've been dating the same guy consistently for at least 3 months. If he thinks waiting that long is "too long" then he probably doesn't have serious intentions therefore only engage if you simply want a casual hook-up (in which case don't complain if he pumps and leaves right after) * in this case "put out" refers to anything of a sexual nature (intercourse, hand job, blow job etc). 3 months would be torture to me. No I don't "pump and leave".
Fondue Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 I don't see this as a bad rule at all. With that said, if she told me that was her "thing," I'd likely amuse myself by waiting it out, then when she's ready, tell her that I'm not ready yet and push it off for a while longer. It would be fun to gauge the reaction.
Andy_K Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 The trouble with a girl who can happily wait three months to have sex with a guy she's dating, is that she'll be more than capable of going without sex for weeks whilst in a relationship too. I much prefer to date the ones who want to rip my clothes off after 1-3 dates. 1
rocketman122 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 3 months...no. way to long. my cutoff is 3 weeks when I dated and it hardly ever passed 2. me and my current GF of 1.5 years had sex on the 2nd. it would have been the first but we both decided not to. when you have sex has nothing to do if the guy will stay or not. some might keep dating others at the same time with you and just wait to get some and then leave right after. time is not a factor for a guy to stay or not. if a guys intention is to be with you then he will stay and it will be other things that would make him walk away. Not a problem to ONS girls but it isnt in me to do those things. my opinion is that most guys would be turned off by waiting so long for physical contact. im now waiting for the "well then he was not the right one" retarded comment.
ltjg45 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Considering that I'm a virgin, I would have no issues waiting 3 months since I never actually participated in such an activity and, if she feels comfortable about it, so be it. However, if after that, I get more sexually aroused and she is still using the same mindset.....well.....
SmileFace Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Three months from meeting(start dating) or from when you both decide to be exclusive?
ltjg45 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Three months from meeting(start dating) or from when you both decide to be exclusive? If you are referring to me, either/or. Since I hasn't engaged in sex, waiting as long as 2 more years wouldn't affect me since I can't get grumpy over something I never experienced, now can I? However, once I do get it (if ever), everything's changes. If I want it more and she isn't willing to give, then I would have to look elsewhere. Makes sense if women are holding back just to see what the male's true intention is but, once you give it out, I will get the signal that you do agree that I'm the kind of person you wanted to date and I would expect a normal relationship after that.
SmileFace Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 If you are referring to me, either/or. Since I hasn't engaged in sex, waiting as long as 2 more years wouldn't affect me since I can't get grumpy over something I never experienced, now can I? However, once I do get it (if ever), everything's changes. If I want it more and she isn't willing to give, then I would have to look elsewhere. Makes sense if women are holding back just to see what the male's true intention is but once you give it out, I will get the signal that you do agree that I'm the kind of person you wanted to date and I would expect a normal relationship after that. I was asking in general. However it is good to get a virgin's POV.
ltjg45 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 I was asking in general. However it is good to get a virgin's POV. Understood. As you can see, I'm terrible when reading and understanding exactly what someone is really asking for via text and signals.
rocketman122 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Considering that I'm a virgin, I would have no issues waiting 3 months since I never actually participated in such an activity and, if she feels comfortable about it, so be it. However, if after that, I get more sexually aroused and she is still using the same mindset.....well..... HAHA. a 26 who isnt eager and DYING to get his cock wet.. dude if I was 26 and a virgin, I would probably be in jail now from raping a woman in the street from wanting to feel it already. if you can wait 2 years then dude go check your testosterone levels. something is wrong with you. youre supposed to be at your peak.
ltjg45 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 HAHA. a 26 who isnt eager and DYING to get his cock wet.. dude if I was 26 and a virgin, I would probably be in jail now from raping a woman in the street from wanting to feel it already. if you can wait 2 years then dude go check your testosterone levels. something is wrong with you. youre supposed to be at your peak. I would NEVER do such a thing. I may have low self-esteem. I may never get a girlfriend. I may be the next 40-year old virgin without having to pay up $400. But I would never even consider the thought of raping a woman for any reason. I would sooner commit suicide.
SmileFace Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Understood. As you can see, I'm terrible when reading and understanding exactly what someone is really asking for via text and signals. It comes with time dear . Sometimes it easier to be blind to stuff actually... everything is so much more magical..
SmileFace Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 HAHA. a 26 who isnt eager and DYING to get his cock wet.. dude if I was 26 and a virgin, I would probably be in jail now from raping a woman in the street from wanting to feel it already. if you can wait 2 years then dude go check your testosterone levels. something is wrong with you. youre supposed to be at your peak. The sh it people say.
rocketman122 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 The sh it people say. ive said worse things
Fatdrifter Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Are you sure three months is long enough? Nah better make it ten years. Want to make sure he doesn't relapse by getting erect
Fatdrifter Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 HAHA. a 26 who isnt eager and DYING to get his cock wet.. dude if I was 26 and a virgin, I would probably be in jail now from raping a woman in the street from wanting to feel it already. if you can wait 2 years then dude go check your testosterone levels. something is wrong with you. youre supposed to be at your peak. I'm 28 and v-card still going. Mostly incel but occasional situations I've turned down. And yea there are a few problems. They're right here on this forum
SmileFace Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 ive said worse things I am pretty aware of that.
TheGuard13 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Mine #1 rule for the ladies is Don't put out* until you've been dating the same guy consistently for at least 3 months. Good luck with that.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 I'm not sure about a fixed number of 3 months - but I agree that it's better to wait a while if you want love, rather than just sex. The few times in my life I've had sex fast was when I pretty much knew it wasn't going anywhere, and that was because I was cynical, lazy, lonely, and hardly even trying. I'm going to try something different this time around. I'm going to go on dates with anybody I want to, and not get sexual at all. I'm going to date just to get to know people and see if there's a connection worth pursuing. I'll only focus on one and possibly get physical with him if I see real potential. By the way, this has nothing to do with my sex drive. I love sex and am always up for it. I'm just trying to be smarter this time. 1
pteromom Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Rules for Dating 1. Be open to possibilities. Just because someone doesn't instantly make your heart do flips doesn't mean they aren't capable. Give people a chance. Limit your "must-haves" and "dealbreakers" to criteria that actually affect the relationship. 2. Know yourself, and make choices that are in line with who you are. Be true to yourself. 3. Never fall in love with someone's potential. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. 4. Your #1 criteria for dating someone should be that they respect you. They respect who you are. They respect your independence. They respect your opinions. They respect your differences. Run away from someone who plays games with you, manipulates you, or tries to control you. 5. Love is a balance of head AND heart. When you let either one make decisions on its own, you run into trouble. Without the head, you end up in drama-filled relationships with lots of passion and fighting but no growth. Without the heart, you end up in a relationship with someone who is "good on paper" but doesn't make your heart sing. You need both. Do NOT settle for less. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 This is hilarious, and fits the theme: How To Get A Guy To Notice You While You're Having Sex With Him | The Onion - America's Finest News Source
Woggle Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 My rule of dating is to do what works to achieve what you want. If you want a serious relationship be the kind of person that makes somebody want to commit to you and that has nothing to do with putting out.
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