mlcj69 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 She broke it off with me just a week ago. I've been trying all week to get back together and take it slow since things have been really bad between us. But I'm not worth it. Ya we couldnt see each other as often as we would like since it was long distance, but to me having this social life or whatever she wants to call it and hanging around this guy friend, is more important that what we had and what we had when we were actually together. Maybe our relationship was too perfect minus the distance. Oh well. She will realize it. I've been really nice giving her multiple chances that I shouldn't even have bothered. I can't take it anymore. I'm pretty sure she doesn't think I'm serious when I say it's completely over, but it is.
Lee Lo Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 She probably doesnt believe it because you keep coming back after she screws up. Long distance relationships take a lot of work, a lot of trust, a lot of communication and if shes not willing to be as devoted as you, you can only see it as a good thing that its over. Leave her alone for a while and weigh your pros and cons. Some time to yourself after all this will be a good thing If your relationship was that perfect, distance wouldnt matter.
Author mlcj69 Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 She probably doesnt believe it because you keep coming back after she screws up. Long distance relationships take a lot of work, a lot of trust, a lot of communication and if shes not willing to be as devoted as you, you can only see it as a good thing that its over. Leave her alone for a while and weigh your pros and cons. Some time to yourself after all this will be a good thing If your relationship was that perfect, distance wouldnt matter. That's what I don't understand. She never complained it anything. Ya she says she wishes she can see me and stuff, but what do you expect. But the day she broke up with me she was hanging out with this guy. I know that was the reason because she wasn't sure what would happen. She says nothing has happened. She's thinking too much of having fun. Good to know she cares about me that much. Too me having fun was not worth ending a relationship with someone you really cared about and loved. She will realize it.
eduardo23 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 LD relationships are hard and not everyone can do them. She probably was bottling feelings and thoughts and hasn't been communicating with you. She was with another guy when she did it too... Does it really matter if she regrets it later or not? Learn from this and find someone more suitable for yourself, who's willing to communicate.
stevie_23 Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 She will realise what exactly? That she made a mistake? That "having fun" is NOT worth losing a partner you love? Hmm. I don't think so. I think what she'll "realise" is that her feelings changed for you sometime ago but she hadn't accepted it within herself at that stage. She will realise that it was for the best that things ended because she simply couldn't, and didn't want to, give and receive what you both need from this relationship anymore. The best case scenario for you (in terms of you seeming to need her to feel bad or realise her "wrongdoing") is that she'll realise that you were "too good" for what she is able to be for you. In terms of you not being "worth it"? No, try not to think like this. I felt like this too at first when my ex broke up with me. It is SO hurtful to yourself to let your mind go to that place of not being "worth it". Her decision, her feelings, her actions...NONE of them reflect on your WORTH in any way. You cannot control another person. You cannot make them feel or not feel anything. Her actions are all about HER and if she wants different things to what she used to, and to what you can give her now in a relationship, well...that's unfortunate but it doesn't change a single thing about YOU. 1
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