ls32ssibm Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 For those feeling down in the dumps about Val's Day and all that jazz; I don't enjoy the "freedom" to go to the strip clip or go wild because I'm single, like some say. That stuff doesn't matter to me. What I do like is knowing that I'm open completely to whoever I may meet, and I can look forward to meeting the perfect person and just work on myself until then. Even if she never, ever comes, I'm going to stay in the mindset that she is. If you think hard enough about your exes, they all had some quality - dealbreaker or minor - that you didn't care for. Don't have to worry about that anymore, either. Have a nice weekend.
MrCastle Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Well; I like the freedom to go to a strip club and go wild. In all seriousness; being single is all I've ever known. Well I had like a two week exclusive relationship when I was 15 if that counts but I don't think it does because we didn't do anything. Lately though (as I stated a few days ago in the OTT), I've been feeling a bit lonely. I sometimes wonder what it would be like to have a woman to call my own. But you can't work towards that, which is something I hope the guys longing for girlfriends understands. You can (and should) work on yourself, but do it for you, not for a girl you've yet to meet. Dating requires you putting yourself out there to maximize the amount of women you meet, but relationships are pure chance. You can't *work* at getting a girlfriend. You can't say "alright I'm gonna work on having a girlfriend so I can have one by June 15th." The people that are in relationships are no more than benefactors of circumstance and time. They found someone at the right place, right time. How many women do I meet on campus that have boyfriends? I'd say 9 out of 10. Because someone else got to them first. That's all it is. You can't plan for a girlfriend, it just happens. Lately I feel like I could definitely use one, but there is nothing I can do to influence my chances. Meeting a woman that has everything I look for both physically and personality wise who is also single, with no kids, and attracted to me. That's not easy to find.
Author ls32ssibm Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 It's unusual someone in college would still have issues finding someone. Not saying there is anything wrong with you, but there is no bigger collaboration of young girls on Earth than a college. I understand many are taken, but you may want to consider branching out beyond your general classes if you haven't already. Campus activities, nearby yoga classes, etc. Remember, even if 9/10 are taken, 1/10 is single, so you have to find that one. But yeah, "working" at getting a girlfriend implies that you are willing to settle. You have to find the happy medium of putting yourself out there and letting fate run it's course.
rocketman122 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 If you think hard enough about your exes, they all had some quality - dealbreaker or minor - that you didn't care for. Don't have to worry about that anymore, either. thats nonsense. who says your next GF wont have other qualities you might not like? why concentrate on all the negative and not on the positive? im certain they are more on the list than the bad. every girl will have different pluses and minuses. and no one is perfect. and it could be she only has 1 that you dont like and it might be very major. or you can find someone with many small quirks that you can deal with.
rocketman122 Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 I love all these that talk about settling. dont you have to go on a date to find out if you want to date the person to be able to decide if you'll settle? all these people talking about I want this and that but dont even. living in a virtual fantasy world.
Author ls32ssibm Posted February 16, 2013 Author Posted February 16, 2013 thats nonsense. who says your next GF wont have other qualities you might not like? why concentrate on all the negative and not on the positive? im certain they are more on the list than the bad. every girl will have different pluses and minuses. and no one is perfect. and it could be she only has 1 that you dont like and it might be very major. or you can find someone with many small quirks that you can deal with. Sure, have fun trying to get over an ex when only focusing on the things that made them great. Missed the point entirely.
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