i'mfaraway Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 A cousin said she has some guy friends that I should meet. But I am not attracted to guys of that ethnicity (this is not personal so if you want to reply to this thread, please do not go off tangent). So I am inclined not to bother. On the other hand, I know what it is about giving them and myself a chance. But I feel torn. So I am looking for different views from LSers based on how whether you would meet those guys or not, if you have similar experiences or if you can understand how I feel.
miss_jaclynrae Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 A cousin said she has some guy friends that I should meet. But I am not attracted to guys of that ethnicity (this is not personal so if you want to reply to this thread, please do not go off tangent). So I am inclined not to bother. On the other hand, I know what it is about giving them and myself a chance. But I feel torn. So I am looking for different views from LSers based on how whether you would meet those guys or not, if you have similar experiences or if you can understand how I feel. Can't say I know what that is like. I have never had any problems with attraction due to ethnicity.
SmileFace Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Are you generally not attracted or just won't date them?
Lani Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 I would.. It's not going to hurt you, and you may even get a whole new bunch of friends out of it..
Author i'mfaraway Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 Are you generally not attracted or just won't date them? I am generally not attracted to date them. And I know that because I have a history of not being attracted to to them. Even if I think they are good looking.
Author i'mfaraway Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 I would.. It's not going to hurt you, and you may even get a whole new bunch of friends out of it.. I did think of it that way. But the whole getting to it. It is like going to the gym. Before you get there, you dread the getting ready to have to sweat it out. But when you are there working out, you feel so pumped with energy. So I am currently at the "getting ready" to decide whether to meet them stage.
Lani Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Don't overthink it... Just get ready to go, instead of getting ready to get ready to go.
KraftDinner Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 If you meet them, are you obligated to have sex with them? No? Then just go. It might be fun.
Author i'mfaraway Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 If you meet them, are you obligated to have sex with them? No? Then just go. It might be fun. Speaking of which, I am not sure I will be able to have sex with them.
SmileFace Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Speaking of which' date=' I am not sure I will be able to have sex with them.[/quote'] Explain... please If this is LS... the herd should be in soon.
Author i'mfaraway Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 Explain... please If this is LS... the herd should be in soon. Isn't attraction needed before you can have sex with someone? At least for most girls.
SmileFace Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Isn't attraction needed before you can have sex with someone? At least for most girls. Oh... that went over my head. I didn't think you needed to clarify that. If it isn't a absolute no - I don't see why not.
Author i'mfaraway Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 Is there anyone that would pass this up? And what would your reasons be?
Lani Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Is there anyone that would pass this up? And what would your reasons be? It sounds to me like you're looking for excuses/reasons not to go. As far as I can see, there aren't any. If you really don't feel comfortable, then don't go. But admit thats the reason, don't pussy foot around it and make excuses.
Author i'mfaraway Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 It sounds to me like you're looking for excuses/reasons not to go. As far as I can see, there aren't any. If you really don't feel comfortable, then don't go. But admit thats the reason, don't pussy foot around it and make excuses. I am not making any excuses. I laid it out that I am not attracted to them. I am just looking for someone else that might feel the same way that I do and look to listen to how their situations turn out. You are entitled to tell me not to pussy foot. I am entitled to seek any kind of posts anyone on LS is willing to say.
yongyong Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 you don't have to bang one of them. Are you embarrassed to be seen with that kind of ethnic group?
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