Allegra Posted August 30, 2004 Posted August 30, 2004 [font=courier new][/font][color=darkblue][/color] Hello everyone! I need a bit of advice....(although I am pretty sure I KNOW what everyone will tell me...) OKAY..here is the story..I have been living with my boyfriend for over 2 years now (we've been together for about 4). There for awhile I was really upset that he had not made the "move" and proposed..he would tell me that he wanted to but that money and all that was holding him back (we DID have some serious money issues). We have a good relationship as far as talking and being there for one another..but lately I am noticing that we really do not have alot IN COMMON. I like to stay busy..play outside, go swimming, go hiking,...that kind of thing...he is content to stay at home and watch tv and drink and stuff. (Which to me, gets seriously boring after awhile) I do love him...I really do..but am starting to wonder...WHY I am with him and WHAT exactly keeps us together. He was in a serious relationship before me and was crushed and I do not want to do that to him again. I just need to know.......is it healthy to be with someone that you really do not have much in common with. (I feel like such an idiot even asking that, as I am really old enough to know this stuff for myself...) Can anyone give a girl a bit of feedback???? Allegra
emra Posted August 30, 2004 Posted August 30, 2004 I do not seem any harm in opposites. If you are both OK with who you are, then I don't see any problems. However, if the differences cause problems, then there is a problem. I don't think there is ever a real perfect relationship. Sometimes, it is the differences 2 people have the give the other person more in their life. If you are both content with how things are, go with it. I am in a relationship now, where for the longest time, I think the only thing that kept us together, was our sex life. It seemed like the only thing we both had in common. Now, I am to a point, where, I know I am totally different then he is and he is with me. I can talk to him about anything and vice versa. And it works, we laugh. His experience is his, mine is mine. We try our best to bring it together, and as long as you respect one another.
Author Allegra Posted September 3, 2004 Author Posted September 3, 2004 Thank you so much for your sweet reply! It helped ease my anxiety a bit...a lot actually. Love can be so wierd...I mean we do get along good...but there are so many times that I am just flooded with doubts but I have to remind myself that THERE IS NO PERFECT RELATIONSHIP. I guess I will just have to wait and see how it all works out! Good luck in your relationship!
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