LK30 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Hi all, Finally I got myself a date last night after a 2 year drought. To be fair my first sentence is inaccurate a little as it was more a drink than a date, and it was set up with the help of my sister! My sister runs a dance class and she told me about an italian girl who'd come over to england for a year to improve her language skills. She said to me 'quick bro, come down and meet her!'...so I did. After a sweaty dance class she didn't look too great, but seemed friendly. Same age as me (32) and things in common as I did an italian course a few years ago but I only speak basics. We met last night (remember I've been out of the game a long time!) and we had a nice drink for a few hours. She actually looked very pretty and I thought wow I'm quite attracted to her. The only drawback (and there's always a stumbling block in my love life!) is that she wants to move to London to live (2 hours away). Understandable as it's a quiet area here and job prospects and contact with fellow italians will be greater there. I don't know what she really thought of me, and I wouldn't say she was flirty, but she just seemed very appreciative having someone to spend time with as she told me in Italy she was out almost all the time and since she's been here (2 months) she's barely been out and knows hardly anyone. We haven't text each other since last night and we've not really arranged anything since. Part of me wants to get to know her more but I do develop feelings for people easily and know that in a few weeks she will surely be on her way to another part of the country. What are your thought on this situation? Thank you! (or should I say grazie!)
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 I would call her up and ask her out again, preferably for an evening activity since she mentioned missing that aspect of life in Italy. I would try to minimize the self-doubt and negativity about how things won't work out. You met someone! Do your best to see where it goes. Good luck!
Robman9911 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Hi all, Finally I got myself a date last night after a 2 year drought. To be fair my first sentence is inaccurate a little as it was more a drink than a date, and it was set up with the help of my sister! My sister runs a dance class and she told me about an italian girl who'd come over to england for a year to improve her language skills. She said to me 'quick bro, come down and meet her!'...so I did. After a sweaty dance class she didn't look too great, but seemed friendly. Same age as me (32) and things in common as I did an italian course a few years ago but I only speak basics. We met last night (remember I've been out of the game a long time!) and we had a nice drink for a few hours. She actually looked very pretty and I thought wow I'm quite attracted to her. The only drawback (and there's always a stumbling block in my love life!) is that she wants to move to London to live (2 hours away). Understandable as it's a quiet area here and job prospects and contact with fellow italians will be greater there. I don't know what she really thought of me, and I wouldn't say she was flirty, but she just seemed very appreciative having someone to spend time with as she told me in Italy she was out almost all the time and since she's been here (2 months) she's barely been out and knows hardly anyone. We haven't text each other since last night and we've not really arranged anything since. Part of me wants to get to know her more but I do develop feelings for people easily and know that in a few weeks she will surely be on her way to another part of the country. What are your thought on this situation? Thank you! (or should I say grazie!) Quit your thinking, and get to textin. Why be alone when you could be out with a nice Italian bello. You like being lonely?
TaraMaiden Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 "Bella" not "bello". The former is feminine, the latter is masculine. OP, whatever you do, do not say to her "Andiamo a letto" as my H tried to demonstrate to me, as the only Italian he knew, when we first began courting.... (now there's an old-fashioned word!) Italian women like gentlemen. But they don't like being fawned over by a potential doormat. So open doors, take her coat, help her into her seat, open the car door for her (even going so far as to ask her to 'wait there'.... as you get out of the driver's seat and go round to her side....) Chivalry is a plus, but don't over-do it. Do not get tipsy, handle your drink well, and do ask her whether she would please like to choose the wine.... And they will evaluate you by the way you treat others (waiters, bar staff, taxi drivers....) Iron your shirt, wear a casual jacket (take it off in the car) and don't wear trainers with your jeans. Very scruffy. How's that for starters? (You might have gathered by now that, si - Io sono Italiana.....) 1
Author LK30 Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 Grazie a tutti! Thanks Tara Maiden! Very handy having an Italian perspective. Very different to English girls as I think they enjoy you being a gentleman, but not too over the top as they see it as cheesy and like equality! I was hoping she might be impressed with some of my Italian bearing in mind hardly anybody speaks it, but don't think she is, so I have bought myself a grammar book to learn how to put a sentence together!!
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