Bob360 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 My girlfriend broke up with me like 3 weeks ago. We had been together for over a year. After a year together I told her she was the love of my life and I asked her if I'm the love of her life and she hesitated. We talked about it in person she told me that the love of her life is her ex and that she still loves him. I ask her but you told me you were over him. And that's when she tells me she was with some other guy before we ever started talking but there relations didn't work because he was leaving to the military. They were together for like 2 weeks. She never told me about this so I felt betrayed in a way. She told me they stayed as friends. They would always text each other when we were together but I didn't mind because she said he was a friend and I didn't know they were together in the past. She broke up with me because she said she couldn't forget about him, I told she can't forget about him if she keeps texting him. I always treated her to the fullest, bought her anything and even payed for her college. Can someone give me advice? Also after we broke up like 4 days later i begged her to give it chance. Did I mess up?.I tried to keep my mind busy but I still keep remembering her.
Mack05 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Bob we shouldn't be with people whose hearts are elsewhere. Instead find a girl who believes you are the love of her life. Leave this one go..
Author Bob360 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 What I don't understand is why even get with me when she wasn't over someone else? Also it took her over a year to tell me??
Chi townD Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 What I don't understand is why even get with me when she wasn't over someone else? Also it took her over a year to tell me?? Dude, you did stuff for her. You paid for her college. You were safe and security. You were a meal ticket. You gave her things her Ex wasn't going to do for her. Sorry dude, you were used.
Author Bob360 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 Dude, you did stuff for her. You paid for her college. You were safe and security. You were a meal ticket. You gave her things her Ex wasn't going to do for her. Sorry dude, you were used. When I tried to reconcile she said, I appreciate everything you did for me. Also she said that we had different things in common. Personally I think that's just an excuse. I do feel played/used and I did tell her that and she said that its not like that and that ill forgive her in the future. This is my first relationship, I'm 21 years old. I know I'm young but it hurts
Chi townD Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 (edited) When I tried to reconcile she said, I appreciate everything you did for me. Also she said that we had different things in common. Personally I think that's just an excuse. I do feel played/used and I did tell her that and she said that its not like that and that ill forgive her in the future. This is my first relationship, I'm 21 years old. I know I'm young but it hurts OH REALLY?!?! Did she offer to pay you back for the money you invested into HER education? And she seems sooooooooo damn sure that you'll forgive her. It's okay if you want to forgive her as a person, but as a girlfriend....she crossed a line. And think about it? If it wasn't like that, then why would you need to forgive her in the future? That statement kinda contradicts itself doesn't it? Start NC. NO CONTACT. Go completely dark on her. Look, she knows that YOU know that she was using you. She's gonna start to feel guilty about it after a while and she may try to make contact. IGNORE HER! Time to heal and move on, dude. Edited February 14, 2013 by Chi townD
Author Bob360 Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 OH REALLY?!?! Did she offer to pay you back for the money you invested into HER education? And she seems sooooooooo damn sure that you'll forgive her. It's okay if you want to forgive her as a person, but as a girlfriend....she crossed a line. And think about it? If it wasn't like that, then why would you need to forgive her in the future? That statement kinda contradicts itself doesn't it? Start NC. NO CONTACT. Go completely dark on her. Look, she knows that YOU know that she was using you. She's gonna start to feel guilty about it after a while and she may try to make contact. IGNORE HER! Time to heal and move, dude. She said that she will pay me back in the future last time I talked to her. But personally if she tries to give me back the money I wont accept it, I would probably through at her face. I payed for her education because I wanted a better life for us and she wasn't getting any fasa at the time.
MrWombat Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 (edited) A very classic and standard story. She wasn't just texting this guy, dude. Se was bumping uglies at every opportunity, and the only reason she wasn't doing it more was that this guy has several girls in rotation and she had to wait her turn. This is the way it is. This is how they behave. It's life. Accept it. Google AWALT. I always treated her to the fullest, bought her anything and even payed for her college. Woah!!!! I missed this. There are a number of words for women like this. One of them starts with 'W'. I hope your year of fun was worth the money. Because that's what you paid for. Edited February 15, 2013 by MrWombat
Author Bob360 Posted February 16, 2013 Author Posted February 16, 2013 Any other advice? Maybe from a female?
lovelifexx Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Well from a girl's point of view, I would say that it is not a good idea to pay so much for a girl in the beginning, or if you aren't married. I was together with a guy 6 ago. He paid for absolutely everything even my student loans. I was having a really hard time financially but it's not like I would have starved if he didn't help me out. I really liked him, but I was still in love with my ex. I knew that my ex and I would never get back together so I stayed with this guy hoping that eventually I would fall in love with him and forget about my ex. We were together for two years and then we mutually broke up, I just fall madly on love with him. I eventually fell in love with someone else. Years later, I realized that the reason I stayed with him so long was because it felt so safe and secure with him since he took care of me financially and in so many other ways. That's what I liked, it was not so much him, but what he provided me with. That's why I couldn't fall out of love with my ex. It was when I met a guy who I wanted to be with because I loved him (he was a poor student) that I stopped thinking about my ex.
lovelifexx Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Oops: "I just fall madly on love with him" was supposed to read "I just couldn't fall madly on love with him"*
Darren Steez Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Move on guy, seriously. It definitely sucks, sounds like this girl used you hard. Guess what, there are people in the world that are users. No doubt you sound like a real nice guy and would have done anything for this girl. You know what dude? How about you go out there into the big wide world and find a girl who will return the favor for you. They are out there. This girl has no drive and with no one to push her she'll stay in the same rut never moving forward in life. Move forward with your life and go get yourself a pretty lady who will treat you with the respect you deserve. This girl doesn't deserve you.
Author Bob360 Posted February 17, 2013 Author Posted February 17, 2013 Move on guy, seriously. It definitely sucks, sounds like this girl used you hard. Guess what, there are people in the world that are users. No doubt you sound like a real nice guy and would have done anything for this girl. You know what dude? How about you go out there into the big wide world and find a girl who will return the favor for you. They are out there. This girl has no drive and with no one to push her she'll stay in the same rut never moving forward in life. Move forward with your life and go get yourself a pretty lady who will treat you with the respect you deserve. This girl doesn't deserve you. After we broke up I told her that I'm too good for her and that I should've listened to what my family and friends told me that she wasn't good enough, she got mad.
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