Hurt21 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Ok, so my ex broke up with me in Oct. I got many different reasons as to why she was leaving except the real one. About a month or so later I learned the real reason.....I was dumped for someone else, that hurt bad. She lied to me repeatedly about it all. I changed my number and haven't spoken to her since. I've been NC for over a month now. End of story right? Wrong. I've since learned everything she did (cheated on me) and said behind my back leading up to the break-up and the month or so after. We went to college together and shared the same group of friends. I graduated already. She has been telling the same group of friends that she was only keeping me around because I was giving her money. She also told them she didn't really like me at all anymore and was basically just using me. Wow. Really? She certainly had me fooled. Here I was thinking I was helping my girlfriend with her financial struggles and I'm being used. My thing is, there was no cheating (on my part at least), abuse or anything like that. So why trash me like that? She dumped me!!!! I don't understand the need to badmouth me. I did nothing to deserve it. So I got cheated on, dumped for someone else, and then trashed to my friends. The entire time before I went NC she is offering her "breadcrumbs" by calling/txting and telling me she misses me. It's just crazy to me. I know most of you will say that it really doesn't matter now and to move on and let it go, which I will. However, that doesn't change the fact that it bothers me. I just don't understand it. Anyway, thanks for reading...! I just needed to vent a little.
didntdeservethis Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 I feel the same way. Some girls just don't care. My girl was seeing someone else behind my back the whole year we were together. She stayed at my place literally every day for the past 5-6 months and when I was on the phone with the guy and he was telling me everything (he didn't know about me either) and I told him "Yea we were serious", she looks at me with hate and says "We weren't serious!". Then why did you spend every day at my place, telling me you cared about me so much and couldn't imagine being without me. Of course after she grabbed all her stuff and left, she has been partying and having a blast with her friends. And here I am, almost 2 weeks later, still feeling like **** and thinking about her 95% of the time. Not a single apology, no admission, no show of affection. People on here say breadcrumbs are bad, but atleast it shows she cared a little bit. My ex doesn't even do that, just quickly moved on and living her life leaving me in this pit of anxiety and pain.
will1988 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Ok, so my ex broke up with me in Oct. I got many different reasons as to why she was leaving except the real one. About a month or so later I learned the real reason.....I was dumped for someone else, that hurt bad. She lied to me repeatedly about it all. I changed my number and haven't spoken to her since. I've been NC for over a month now. End of story right? Wrong. I've since learned everything she did (cheated on me) and said behind my back leading up to the break-up and the month or so after. We went to college together and shared the same group of friends. I graduated already. She has been telling the same group of friends that she was only keeping me around because I was giving her money. She also told them she didn't really like me at all anymore and was basically just using me. Wow. Really? She certainly had me fooled. Here I was thinking I was helping my girlfriend with her financial struggles and I'm being used. My thing is, there was no cheating (on my part at least), abuse or anything like that. So why trash me like that? She dumped me!!!! I don't understand the need to badmouth me. I did nothing to deserve it. So I got cheated on, dumped for someone else, and then trashed to my friends. The entire time before I went NC she is offering her "breadcrumbs" by calling/txting and telling me she misses me. It's just crazy to me. I know most of you will say that it really doesn't matter now and to move on and let it go, which I will. However, that doesn't change the fact that it bothers me. I just don't understand it. Anyway, thanks for reading...! I just needed to vent a little. Easy answer. A lot of women (and guys too) act this way after using/abusing/cheating on someone and dumping them because they know what they did and how they acted was wrong. instead of feeling hurt about it and feeling like people are judging them, they lie to themselves and everyone else to try to justify their action. Thats all it is. My mom pulled that stuff when she ran off on the family. I had an ex who cheated on me and was controlling and yet after dumping me she made me out to be a psycho stalker. some women do that. in their minds what they are doing is right, it makes them feel in control. just brush it off. good luck man! 1
Pete123 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Your experience is almost so similar to mine. It bothered and still bothers me to this day aswell as i got treated that way to. Theres nothing you can do or she can do to make you feel better anymore, you just have to move on. You can be the nicest person in the world and still be treated like trash. Thats sadly the world that we live in.
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