foxeater Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 So my ex and I broke up about 2 months ago after being together for almost 3 years. I still feel the same way about her as when we started dating and would love to make it work again and she knows exactly how I feel. Opening up for her has always been tough but with a little gentle prodding I eventually managed to get out of her that she just feels no sexual attraction to me anymore. We still get along fine, we can joke and laugh and play together so it almost would be able to work if not for this. Unfortunately I don't exactly have a lot of relationship experience so I don't know that this is something that comes back or can be worked out. She has admitted that she is willing to see if the feeling comes back which makes me feel hopeful but at the same time as I said I don't know that this sort of thing can or does happen. I imagine there is no way I myself can fix this or anything I can do really. I've though that maybe if we could spend more time together having fun going out and doing things that might help. On the other hand maybe no contact would be the route to go but in our situation that's not really possible since we have a 1 year old son together so we have to keep in touch and see each other quite a bit. I just don't know what to do, I try to talk about these things with her but then I worry that maybe I'm over thinking it and pushing the talking too much. Do I just let it be and see what happens or let it go altogether?
AlexfromBoston Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Well it's tough to understand, as an outside, as to why your ex is no longer sexually attracted to you. Did you gain a large amount of weight? skimp on your personal hygiene?loss of sex drive, stagnant in the bedroom, etc? Regardless, you really need to narrow done what went wrong and correct this issue NOW...not ASAP. In the meantime, make sure you stay in contact with her and continue to show your ex a good time and have fun. If you engage in NC then you are just reinforcing whatever it was that caused your ex to lose her sexual attraction to you. Essentially, not only will you be "lame" in the sack(i.e.), but you wont be much fun either. And if she hasn't been having sex with you leading up to the break, you have to understand that there is a very strong chance that she has met someone else and has been engaging in a sexual tryst with him.
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