Dont Know where to Start...i need to move out...low income

[smudgeandsmear]

I could make this incredibly long but will keep it brief.

 

Me and my wife have been together for 20 years.

 

But the last 10 years has seen 3 affairs on her part ( none on mine ).There is a history of sexual abuse when she was very little with her uncle.This is mainly the reason why I have forgiven the affairs and the hardship.

 

The past 3 years she has become a serious alcoholic 3 bottles a day.She has been in hospital and gone thru rehab at her admittance,4 weeks later she has started to drink again after the death of basically a facebook friend and school friend from years ago.This person she doesn't really know except for he helped her abit on facebook because he has gone thru very similar abuse and drink problems.There was NO affair here whats so ever im just giving you her background.I have gone thru a lot of bad stuff im told constantly im not good enough it goes on and on.

 

There is a 13 year old daughter in all of this who wants to live with her dad if we split up.Her mum has been on probation in last year for drink driving and ended up with a 24 month ban.She got admitted to hospital by going to the docs and saying she wanted to end it,she didn't but it was a cry for help.Butttttttttt she has said only last night she wants to end it and in the past has had pills in her hand while in her daughters view and her daughter has heard her say these things.Basically when she drinks she is very unstable and me personally I think she will always drink she will always find an excuse to do so and ending our relationship is crushing me but for my own piece of mind and more importantly my daughters I feel I must.

 

The problem is we both own a semi detached house worth 150'000 midlands area.I have just started going self employed as a window cleaner ( never claimed unemployment benefits ).Im only earning around £2500 a year as I have only just started up.Im seriously thinking of moving out and trying to find a rentable place with 2 bedrooms to get my life back on track and protect my daughter as I know its affecting her.

Where do I go to get the best advice as I have no idea where to start with all of this.I feel im trapped and have no power at all and have to put up with my wifes attitude and abuse of alcohol.When I move out I do think she will go to pieces and even end her life but what do I do become a slave to this ?.

 

Im really wanting to know is can I move out and get my rent paid on this amount of money how do I start all over again in the sorry mess that's its become.I truly cant believe im typing this and this is where im at,its really awfull.

 

Thanks in advance.

 

 

p.s I do not have any friends willing or able to put us up or close family so where I go will have to be paid for

Edited February 14, 2013 by smudgeandsmear
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