Date in a couple of hours. Valentine's day. Should I bring it up at all?

[FrustratedGuy91]

I met this girl a couple of weeks ago (Actually like 2 months ago) and we went out like 4 times in the past month, we seem to like each other since our dates usually end up in us making out (She's 18 and I'm 22).

 

Anyway, we're going to have lunch together today and I'm not from the US so Valentine's day isn't really popular around here, so I'm not sure if I should bring it up at all. Also we're not actually in a relationship, or at least we haven't discussed the topic so far. Sure, we walk holding hands and she acts rather clingy some times, but nothing official.

 

What should I do?

 

Also a small detail that may be important. In one of our first dates I mentioned how I used to wear those rubber wristbands (Kinda like cancer awareness, but with other themes. I really don't know what they're called), but I didn't anymore because there was no were I could get them. And the next time I saw her she gave me one she had (She said she had plenty). It may seem like a small detail, but it seems she did pay attention and she cares. Maybe I'm wrong?

 

Anyway, sorry for the long post. And thanks for any advice you may provide

[JamesM]

Here is what you do...

 

Get her a small gift (ie candy) and a card which is not too mushy or loving yet it hints at how you hope for more eventually.

 

Then you give it to her and tell her, "In my country we don't do VD much, but I know you do in the US. So I wanted to give you a small gift because I want to show you how I feel for you. I don't know where this is going yet, but I think we may have something. And this card and gift expresses what I feel for you."

 

Okay not the same words exactly, but you get the idea.

 

You don't want to be the guy who gets her nothing and she expects something. It is far better to get her something and have her not expect it. If she got you a wristband, then yes, she cares about you enough to pay attention. You can do the same for her.

 

Little details make big differences.

[candie13]

I think you're mature, for a 22 years old . I like how you're not freaking out because of St.V., I also think this is only as big as you let it become.

 

Do whatever you feel it's appropriate - generally speaking, yes, girls do like a little attention for this date, it's like a nice little compliment, if you two are seeing each other and enjoying it.

[FrustratedGuy91]

Everything well, I ended up being honest about it. I told her Happy Valentine's, asked if she liked chocolate, took her to the candy store, and let her choose any chocolate she liked. She was really thankful.